April 9, 2012

Empaths Becoming More Aware

One empath I spoke with said he is becoming more aware of the energy around him and the spiritual gifts he has. Yet at the same time he has been somewhat afraid of it. For him, this stems from religious philosophies, which told him that these are not gifts of God—that they are really from the devil. You may have been brought up to believe that these types of sensitivities are evil, but at the same time (even as a child) you’ve had awareness, sensations, feelings, or inner knowings. If so, you may be a little conflicted about how to approach their use. Perhaps you haven’t tried to develop these gifts because you are afraid you’ll go too far or don’t know what kind of boundaries you should set.

First let’s take a look at a beloved teacher, Jesus. Once he was in a crowd of people when a woman touched the hem of his garment. Instantly he knew virtue (healing energy) had gone out of him and he asked, “Who touched me?” He was that sensitive! He felt it when someone was tapping into his electromagnetic field even though she only touched his clothing! I remind you of the verse that tells us that every good and perfect gift, spiritual gifts, comes from God. There are many spiritual gifts listed in 1 Corinthians 13: the gift of prophecy, the gift of tongues, the gift of the interpretation of tongues, discerning of spirit, healing, working of miracles, etc. These are listed for our benefit so we understand that we have been gifted in some way. And there’s a responsibility to use those gifts with love. We weren’t given these gifts to hide them from the world or be afraid of them. They are tools to help us and others. When we have these intuitive gifts, it is very important to nurture our own spirit and set boundaries to keep from being bombarded by energy from everybody out there. We must love ourselves before we can love others or else there’s nothing to give. Spending time with God-Goddess is like refueling a car. You can’t run very long without more juice!

When Jesus was walking the Earth some people wanted to stone him some wanted to throne him. There was a vast difference in perspective and what people thought of him. We empaths have that same dilemma. Other people may not understand you. Maybe they are afraid of the gifts you have. Through our religious teachings we have been taught that the discerning of spirits or being able to communicate with those in the afterlife is of the devil. I’ve been called a necromancer by a close member of my family. Obviously, my gifts are not appreciated there. Does that stop me from using them? No, I use them because I have been given these gifts and I have a responsibility to use them wisely; and that’s what I intend to do. Do I flaunt them in front of my disapproving family members? No, that’s what the Bible refers to as casting your pearls before swine. I'm not calling anyone a pig. I'm saying that there’s no need in putting something so valuable out there and allowing your gifts and sensitivities to be trampled. You can decide who you reveal your gifts to and who you use them with. In fact I’ve made it a practice that unless I have permission to pray for someone I just don’t do it. You can easily get your energy tangled up in someone else’s by meddling energetically in another person’s stuff.

Some people have a great sensitivity to energy and they see things or get impressions. They may intuitively know what is going on in another person’s life. You are not obligated to help every person you encounter, but there is something you can do. Before you decide to get involved pray about it. Breathe deeply for a few minutes and ask yourself if you should do/say anything about what you have discovered. How do you feel when you think of saying something or offering to help? Does it feel right? Do you have pain anywhere in your body or emotions? If so, avoid getting involved on a human level. If a person has not asked you to help them, they may not want your help. Do you feel lighter, joyful, or happy when you think of helping this person or mentioning what you have discerned? If so, ask for wisdom about what to do and how to approach the person.

If you keep thinking of someone and sense they need help, you may or may not need to approach them on a human level. You can always send love and light to guide their way. Simply call upon the angels to help. Imagine a beautiful beam of light coming from the cosmos, maybe pink or green. Pink represents the heart or love; green represents healing. See this beam of light going toward and surrounding the person in need. This powerful energy is like a stem cell that has divine intelligence and knows where it is needed and what to do when it gets there. This not only gives them energy to work with, it gives them clarity so they can make good decisions. They may be able to feel that strength undergirding and supporting them. If something needs changing, they can apply that energy however they want to. If it’s healing, if it’s a relationship, if it’s emotional/mental issue, it doesn’t matter, the love and light is universal. Just send that energy and let them do with it what they want as spirit directs them. By sending love and light, you are not trying to manipulate any outcome or change anything in another person’s circumstances or life. You’re not violating their free will or “fixing” a situation their soul has created from which to learn its lesson. Sending positive energy to someone is like leaving a gift on their doorstep. It provides what they need but they never know who sent the gift and you won’t have to take on other people’s stuff. You will know who and when you need to help as well as how. If you follow your inner guidance, you’ll intuitively know how far you need to go with your help and what you need to do to strengthen your own boundaries.

If someone asks you to pray for them, then you have a responsibility to use your gifts. But, rather than using your body or emotional center (third chakra) to feel and sense, use your sixth chakra, which is also called the third eye, to see or know where you need to direct energy. It’s when we try to operate out of our own emotions and our own physical strength that we are going to be drained. But when we operate from divine power, the place of the sacred heart, it’s not us doing the work; we’re simply being a conduit. We are able to be the light, and by being the light, we’re being God. And we don’t have to worry about backlash or be concerned about what other people think.

So if you are worried about what you have been taught regarding your intuitive gifts or concerned about what other people are saying, remember where the laws of God are written. The laws that the psalmist David was talking about are not written on tablets of stone or in a book, nor are they found in religion. They are written in your heart. If something doesn’t feel right, and you have conflict about it, always go with the truth your heart reveals to you.

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  1. Thank you so much for this post!!! Your words help me in ways I'm not sure how to express yet. love

  2. My Son and I are connected in this strong way, I feel him when he is upset or emotional and it makes me come undone. I have more of a problem disconnecting myself from other people's emotional states than anything else I can think of. To make it more challenging, I am a nurse and case manage patients over the phone, so I feel them and their suffering on a daily basis, I am thoroughly exhausted by the end of my day.

    Thank you for your website, just found it today :)

  3. Welcome to Whose Stuff is This blog, reflectorcrab! Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. I know how it feels to be so connected with someone that you feel their every mood change. You can learn to manage this type of exchange of emotional energy. I hope you will read more of the articles on this site. Lots of help here.

  4. beautiful post. thank you so much. It has given me confirmation. :)

  5. I'm delighted you stopped by and found this post helpful, Vennie. Blessings to you!