Helping An Empathic Child Restore Strength

by Caron Goode

“A resilient child does not need all these features to be resilient, but one (set of skills) is not enough. Resilience results from a combination of these features.”

The International Resilience Project put forth A Guide to Promoting Resilience in Children: Strengthening the Human Spirit. In this book, the author, Goldberg, suggests that children can draw from three sources of resilience. The first is to know what is available to them. The second resource is their inner personal skills, and the third resource is the action they can take. The three resources are reflected in statements for each category:

I HAVE represents what is available in their environment.
I AM statements reflect the child’s resources.
I CAN statements represent what the child could do, what action feels right.

I HAVE
 A big brother who supports me and loves me.
 My dog, Max, who sleeps on my bed when I feel upset.
 My family who love me.

I AM
 A sensitive person who likes to help others.
 Happy most of the time
 Willing to be responsible for what I do

I CAN
 Share my feeling with my parents when I am overwhelmed.
 Shift my moods from sad to happy
 Take ten deep breaths to calm down and focus.

For further information, check out Raising Intuitive Children.

Dr. Goode is the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents International, a global online school for training successful, wealthy parenting coaches in home-based businesses. She is the author of fifteen books, including the international best seller, Kids Who See Ghosts, the national award-winner Raising Intuitive Children. See and review all of Dr. Goode’s books here.


If you are an empath struggling with managing the energy overload that tends to accompany this gift, you might want to join us for a free training event: “Empaths Shifting into 2012: A Telesummit to Help Energy-Sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth” September 6, 13, 20, & 27, 2011. Sign up at http://live-spirit.com/empathytelesummit

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Interview with an Empath Having Anxiety Attacks

Last week, a man contacted me about the anxiety attacks he started having within the past two years. They were so bad at first that he went to the hospital thinking he was having a heart attack. The medical staff ran all kinds of tests and found absolutely nothing wrong with him and had no explanation for the chest pains, racing heartbeat, nervousness, shaking, anxiety, and general feeling of being ill. The ER doctor diagnosed it as heat exhaustion and dehydration and told him to go to his primary care physician for follow up. The PCP wanted to prescribe anti-depressants, but my client did not want to take them. Keep in mind that all of this followed an event at work when a coworker had a heart attack.

The anxiety attacks subsided after my client had energy work and he wasn’t bothered like this for nearly a year. When he started having physical symptoms again this summer, he went to the hospital again with his heart racing. The medical staff ran all kinds of tests and found him perfectly healthy and had no explanation other than dehydration since it was very hot outside. However, he had been drinking plenty of fluids to avoid another episode like he had the year before. He had been on antibiotics for a head cold and thought perhaps an allergic reaction was occurring. He stopped taking the medication and the symptoms immediately lessened.

He continued to struggle with mild symptoms that would peak at times causing him to still wonder what the hell was going on. He's a young, healthy man. Why was he having panic attacks and feeling so strange emotionally and physically?  Within the past few months, these panic attacks started to affect his work and business. He finally contacted me. Here is a synopsis of our conversation.

EMPATH: The anxiety attack today was almost instant—no warning that it was coming on—but I was able to calm myself before I started feeling really bad. I thought it might be tobacco so I tried cutting down. I want to stop using it. I’m under a lot of stress right now and that makes things worse. Can you feel my energy through the phone?

YVONNE: Oh, yes! I feel your energy. It’s crazy wild and I’m having to remind myself to breathe. The human body has an electromagnetic field around it and yours is very cluttered. You definitely need to ground your energy and clear your field. Do you know how to do this?
EMPATH: No.

YVONNE: Do you have my book, Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You?
EMPATH: Yes, but I haven’t read it yet.

YVONNE: Chapter 9 walks you through the grounding and centering steps and describes a lot of other helpful things you can do to manage your energy. You can also listen to the audios on my blog: http://whosestuffisthis.blogspot.com/search/label/Audios%20for%20Empaths. 
Who have you been around in the past 24 hours? What was their energy like?

EMPATH: I was talking to a man named Leon this morning just before this attack occurred. He has a stressful job, he’s trying to get a promotion, and his wife is sick.
YVONNE: You are an empath and you pick up energy from others quite easily. Empaths have the ability to heal and transmute the suffering of others by taking detrimental energy into their own body or auric fields. Having this ability is a gift once you know how to manage it. There are many people like you and that is why I wrote a book to help them. It’s the book I wish I’d had twelve years ago when I was going through what you are now.

EMPATH: What is this gift for? If it’s possible to pick up other people’s feelings, there has to be a reason for it. I don’t know why I have this gift if I don’t want it. Why is it so uncontrollable? I work on machines because they don’t have feelings. I can’t be around people on a daily basis.
YVONNE: Many empaths find it difficult to be around others—some even become hermits. We empaths are more comfortable in an environment where our own energy is predominant.
The gift is to help heal humanity and the planet. It is controllable. I’m putting together a free telesummit in September to train empaths how to use the gift to heal themselves and others without paying a personal price. Please sign up and plan to listen to these calls: http://whosestuffisthis.blogspot.com/p/websites-and-blogs-for-empaths.html

I had to clear my own energy field after working with this client. I also cleared his field for him and arranged a followup chat to see how he is doing after he starts putting some grounding and centering exercises into practice.

Everything on this planet is composed of energy. We use the energy in the plants, drugs, and chemicals to treat illnesses. Empathic fatigue is not something your doctor will diagnose or treat. It is an energetic imbalance and must be corrected through spiritual means. For far too long the medical world has tried to separate the body from the mind and soul. We are entering a time when this will no longer be possible. The medical world will either have to change or people—especially empaths—will have to find alternative methods for maintaining health on all levels.

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Grounding & Centering Steps Now Downloadable as MP3

Earlier this year, I released a free audio for clearing, cleansing, and balancing chakras. It is such a popular favorite that I decided to make it downloadable so it can be played on MP3 players and taken with you. Energy-sensitive people will find this resource helpful for staying emotionally balanced and grounded when faced with the energy of the thoughts, feelings, and emotions of those around them.

Prepare to establish the color of the grounding cord you desire and the length of minutes you would like to have the golden sunlight flow in your aura. Two to five minutes is recommended for beginners.

Click this text: GroundingCentering.mp3 to open the download page, then go to File on your browser menu and save the page. From there, you can add it to your iTunes library or wherever you store MP3 audio files on your computer.

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Free Training for Empaths

“Empaths Shifting into 2012: A Telesummit to Help Energy-sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth.” There will be a panel of eight experts who will speak about how the Earth is shifting to bring in more divine feminine energy and how this is affecting lightworkers and empaths. Our counselors, well-trained empaths, and holistic practitioners will help people develop the gift of empathy and give tips for getting free from detrimental energy. We will teach how to become empowered as an empath walking in oneness with all creation so everyone can help facilitate the Earth’s shift into higher consciousness.

This free telesummit will be conducted by phone as everyone calls a specific number and enters a pass code to join the conference. People will be able to ask questions during each of the four calls, which will be offered all four Tuesdays in September. I will present a session titled “There are No Victims! Helping Empaths to See Themselves as Empowered Beings of Light” and speak about why forgiveness is so important to empaths who want to stay clear of negativity and align with higher frequencies in order to accomplish their life’s mission. These calls will be recorded, so if you can’t make all four calls, you can listen to the replays.

Register now so you will be sure to get the Web link and passcode to enter the telesummit. Go to http://live-spirit.com/empathytelesummit/ and leave your contact information so we can send you more information.

Replays of the individual calls for the telesummit will be available for free through Live-Spirit.com for the first 36 hours after each conference call. Once the fourth call of the telesummit is complete, the audios and transcripts of all four calls, which will include presentations by all eight panelists, will be available for purchase. Go to Live-Spirit.com to reserve your copy now!

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How to Connect with an Empathic Child After Distress

by Dr Caron Goode

At age ten, empathic Tess experienced a sudden and abrupt disconnect from her mom, which would affect her for the rest of her life. One day her mom was hugging her after school and teaching her how to cut vegetables. The next day, her Mom did not see her, but looked past her with a distant gaze, spaced-out eyes. Mom told Tess that the voices in her head told her to pull the plugs out of the walls.

Such a rapid disconnection from her mom was worse than losing her mom to death in Tess’ eyes. Rather than being able to say goodbye, Tess had to renegotiate the emotional environment with her mom still alive, yet not present.

Tess was empathic. She felt as her mom felt, and had no way to talk about it or understand it. The result was that Tess withdrew, cried and felt isolated and hurt.

Tess felt threatened by her mom’s withdrawal. She also loved her Mom, so Tess split her attention in half. One half stayed hidden inside a sensitive heart, protecting and armoring. One half re-learned how to live in a home with her mother’s mental illness, diagnosed as Schizoid Affective disorder. Tess was on constant psychic alert.

An intuitive cannot sustain the long-term division of attention in a situation such as Tess experienced without negative emotional consequences. Have you ever walked forward in life while trying to watch your back every two minutes? It would distort your attention and create tension in the same way emotional intensity or trauma strike empathic children. Empathic children will

• Internalize the toxic feeling that they are the burden
• Feel inadequate or unloved and turn the messages into negative self-talk.
• Feel inconsequential, like they have no power or resources in their environment.

These adversarial moments are also brilliant opportunities for developing flexibility and strength rather than being resigned. Help your children develop habits of coping so they become self-confident and trust their intuitive intelligence.

Tess’ therapist had her close her eyes, relax, and go back to age ten when she disconnected from the Mom she knew. Tess felt a giant creature standing beside her left shoulder much like a Wookiee of the Star Wars epics. This imaginary friend became Tess’ protector. She could hide behind him to feel safe, and could control her world in this way. This was a resilience creation, which let Tess control her inner world when she couldn’t control the outer environment.

For further information, check out Raising Intuitive Children.

© 2011 Dr. Goode is the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents International, a global online school for training successful, wealthy parenting coaches in home-based businesses. She is the author of fifteen books, including the international best seller, Kids Who See Ghosts, the national award-winner Raising Intuitive Children. See and review all of Dr. Goode’s books here.


If you are an empath struggling with managing the energy overload that tends to accompany this gift, you might want to join us for a free training event: “Empaths Shifting into 2012: A Telesummit to Help Energy-Sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth” September 6, 13, 20, & 27, 2011. Sign up at http://live-spirit.com/empathytelesummit


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PURCHASE paperback book, Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You at http://tinyurl.com/EmpathAmazon. The e-book version is now available for Kindle, iPhone, iPad, and other digital reading devices.

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Are Autistic Children Empathic?

Many empaths have children who are also empathic. For this reason, our free training for empaths in September will have two sessions for parenting these gifted children.

Dr. Caron Goode is a psychologist and parent coach for parents wishing to create and maintain a nurturing relationship their children. She is the author of Raising Intuitive Children and Kids who See Ghosts ~ Guide Them Through Their Fear. On September 20 at 3 p.m. Central Time, she will present information about working with intuitive children who have the gift of empathy.  Learn more about Caron at www.raisingintuitivechildren.com

Also making a presentation on September 20 is Suzy Miller, the visionary founder of Blue Star Brilliance LLC and author of AWESOMISM: A New Way to Understand the Diagnosis of Autism. After a 22-year career as a pediatric speech language pathologist, Suzy met a four-year old child diagnosed with autism who was destined to change not only the way she viewed autism, but life in general. This powerful interaction left her with the skill of telepathy, which she uses to communicate with the highest aspects of we are, bringing awareness and integration of those higher aspects of self into our daily lives.  She will be presenting AUTISM: A POSTIVE STEP IN HUMAN EVOLUTION.Learn more about Suzy at www.suzymiller.com

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Empaths Shifting into 2012: A Telesummit to Help Energy-sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth

Empaths, who are at their wits end trying to figure out how this seemingly cursed ability to sense the energy of others is called a "gift," will find the help they need in "Empaths Shifting into 2012: Helping Energy-sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth."

All four Tuesdays in September 2011. Don't miss these fabulous eight hours of conference call training!

• Tips for getting free of detrimental energy
• Follow your spiritual path as an energy-sensitive person
• Become empowered
• Facilitate the Earth’s shift

 September 6 at 3 p.m. Central Time
• Kate Garvey
• Gini Grey

September 13 at 3 p.m. Central Time
• Dr. Tom Goode
• Jenna Forrest

September 20 at 3 p.m. Central Time
• Suzy Miller
• Dr. Caron Goode

September 27 at 8 p.m. Central Time
• Dr. Michael R. Smith
• Yvonne Perry

See http://live-spirit.com/empathytelesummit/ for more information or to register for this free training telesummit to be conducted by phone.

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PURCHASE paperback book, Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You at http://tinyurl.com/EmpathAmazon. The e-book version is now available for Kindle, iPhone, iPad, and other digital reading devices.

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Empaths Shifting into 2012 Telesummit- Kate Garvey on September 6th

Kate Garvey will be speaking during the first call for the "Empaths Shifting into 2012: A Telesummit to Help Energy-sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth." telesummit on September 6 @ 3 p.m. Central Time

Reiki and Level II Acutonics practitioner Kate Garvey is the founder and director of the Institute of Sound Healing teaching. She has conducted workshops at the Indigenous Grandmother’s Gatherings. Her presentation is “Self-Care, Healing, and the Shift: Walking Between Worlds, Our Sacred Call, Response Vs. Reaction, the Good of All, the Speed of Transitions, and Keeping Your Sanity.” www.instituteofsoundhealing.com

The purpose of this telesummit is to help people understand the science of the shift and how this is affecting all people—especially empaths. A panel of eight experts will give you tips for getting free from detrimental energy and staying joyfully clear as you follow your spiritual path. This panel of coaches, empaths, counselors, and energy workers will tell how the earth is shifting to bring in more divine feminine energy and how this affects lightworkers and empaths.

Join us for a fabulous virtual online event all four Tuesdays in September 2011. Each of the four calls will teach how to maintain groundedness, obtain clarity, and enact self-care while assisting in the Earth’s transformation. Each content-rich call will last about an hour and a half in order to allow two speakers to present training modules. You will be able to ask questions in advance or during each of the four one-hour calls spread over a four-week period.

To sign up or learn more visit http://dld.bz/adU8s

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PURCHASE paperback book, Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You at http://tinyurl.com/EmpathAmazon. The e-book version is now available for Kindle, iPhone, iPad, and other digital reading devices.

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The Emotional Vampire Survival Guide: Emotional Freedom in Action

Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s new book “Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life” (Three Rivers Press, 2011)

To be emotionally free you can’t remain naïve about relationships. Some people are positive and mood elevating. Others can suck optimism and serenity right out of you. Vampires do more than drain your physical energy. The super-malignant ones can make you believe you’re an unworthy, unlovable wretch who doesn’t deserve better. The subtler species inflict damage by making smaller digs which can make you feel bad about yourself—for instance, “Dear, I see you’ve put on a few pounds”  or “You’re overly sensitive!” Suddenly they’ve thrown you emotionally off-center you by prodding areas of shaky self-worth. To protect your sensitivity, it’s important to name and combat these vampires. The concept struck such a collective chord in my book Positive Energy that in Emotional Freedom I illustrate how it applies to protecting your emotions and not absorbing other people’s negativity. In the book I discuss these vampires to watch for and ways to deal with them.

SIGNS THAT YOU’VE ENCOUNTERD AN EMOTIONAL VAMPIRE
(from “Emotional Freedom” by Judith Orloff MD)

•    Your eyelids are heavy—you’re ready for a nap
•    Your mood takes a nosedive
•    You want to binge on carbs or comfort foods
•    You feel anxious, depressed, or negative
•    You feel put down, sniped at, or slimed

TYPES OF EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES

Vampire #1: The Narcissist
Their motto is “Me first.” Everything is all about them. They have a grandiose sense of self-importance and entitlement, hog attention, and crave admiration. They’re dangerous because they lack empathy and have a limited capacity for unconditional love. If you don’t do things their way, they become punishing, withholding, or cold.

How to Protect Your Emotions: Keep your expectations realistic. These are emotionally limited people. Try not to fall in love with one or expect them to be selfless or love without strings attached. Never make your self-worth dependent on them or confide your deepest feelings to someone who won’t cherish them. To successfully communicate, the hard truth is that you must show how something will be to their benefit. Though it’s better not to have to contend with this tedious ego stroking, if the relationship is unavoidable use the above strategies to achieved desired results.

Vampire #2: The Victim
These vampires grate on you with their “poor-me’ attitude and are allergic to taking responsibility for their actions. The world is always against them, the reason for their unhappiness. When you offer a solution to their problems they always say, “Yes, but.” You might end up screening your calls or purposely avoid them. As a friend, you may want to help but their tales of woe overwhelm you.

How to Protect Your Emotions: Set kind but firm limits. Listen briefly and tell a friend or relative, “I love you but I can only listen for a few minutes unless you want to discuss solutions. Then I’d be thrilled to brainstorm with you.” With a coworker, listen briefly, sympathize by saying, “I’ll keep good thought for things to work out. Then say, I hope you understand, but I’m on deadline and must go back to work. Then use “this isn’t a good time” body language such as crossing your arms and breaking eye contact to help set these healthy limits. 

Vampire #3: The Controller
These people obsessively try to control you and dictate what you’re supposed to be and feel. They have an opinion about everything. They’ll control you by invalidating your emotions if they don’t fit into their rulebook. They often start sentences with “You know what you need?” and then proceed to tell you. You end up feeling dominated, demeaned, or put down.

How to Protect Your Emotions: The secret to success is never try and control a controller. Be healthily assertive, but don’t tell them what to do. You can say, “I value your advice but really need to work through this myself.” Be confident but don’t play the victim or sweat the small stuff. Focus on high priority issues rather than on putting the cap on the toothpaste.

Vampire #4: The Splitter or Borderline Personality
Splitters see things as either good or bad and have love/hate relationships. One minute they idealize you, the next you’re the enemy if you upset them. They have a sixth sense for knowing how to pit people against each another and will retaliate if they feel you have wronged them. They are people who are fundamentally damaged—inwardly they feel as if they don’t exist and become alive when they get angry. They’ll keep you on an emotional rollercoaster and you may walk on eggshells to avoid their anger.

How to Protect Your Emotions: Stay calm. Don’t react when your buttons get pushed. Splitters feed off of anger. They respond best to structure and limit setting. If one goes into a rage, tell the person, “I’m leaving until you get calmer. Then we can talk.” Refuse to take sides when he or she tries to turn you against someone else. With family members, it’s best to show a united front and not let a splitter’s venomous opinions poison your relationships.



Judith Orloff MD, an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA and intuition expert, is author of the New York Times Bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life (Three Rivers Press, 2011) Her other bestsellers are Positive Energy, Intuitive Healing, and Second Sight. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. She passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness. www.drjudithorloff.com

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How An Empathic Child Can Self-Soothe

by Dr. Caron Goode

Through empathic touch, you teach an intuitive child to trust his sense of feeling and his body’s messages. By pairing touch with empathy you teach the child to calm himself, a trait that every teacher who labels a child hyperactive is seeking. When a child touches his own heart, laying the palm to rest on the chest, he harmonizes his energy and synchronizes the body’s rhythm. He brings chaos to comfort and distractions to center.

Holding your child next to your heart is the most effective way to feel strength. Heart to heart hugs look like cradling the child in your lap, his back to your chest or kneeling down to your child’s level and embracing her heart to yours. Rocking also creates a calm state for younger children. A child can also place his hand on his heart and settle into the feeling of it for several seconds to produce calm.

Tender loving touch is important throughout one’s entire life, especially for the empath. In the developing embryo, a layer of cells called the ectoderm produces the skin and the nervous system. In this concrete physiological connection, touch provides “food” to the nervous system for the human to experience.

Purposeful, empathic touch to regulate and support an empathic child’s physiology tells the nervous system to be resilient and calm.

For further information, check out Raising Intuitive Children.

© 2011 Dr. Goode is the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents International, a global online school for training successful, wealthy parenting coaches in home-based businesses. She is the author of fifteen books, including the international best seller, Kids Who See Ghosts, the national award-winner Raising Intuitive Children. See and review all of Dr. Goode’s books here.


If you are an empath struggling with managing the energy overload that tends to accompany this gift, you might want to join us for a free training event: “Empaths Shifting into 2012: A Telesummit to Help Energy-Sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth” September 6, 13, 20, & 27, 2011. Sign up at http://live-spirit.com/empathytelesummit

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PURCHASE paperback book, Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You at http://tinyurl.com/EmpathAmazon. The e-book version is now available for Kindle, iPhone, iPad, and other digital reading devices.

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FREE Telesummit to Help Energy-Sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth

Things are really getting exciting as the empath training telesummit is set to start in just a few weeks. We have more than 150 people signed up. We only have space for 200 people on each call, so you please plan to arrive on the line early to make sure you get on the call. If you miss any of the calls, the free replays will be available for 36 hours. After that, the replays will be available for $47. You will get all 4 calls, which includes the transcripts for all 8 presentations.  

Sign up now at http://live-spirit.com/empathytelesummit/

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PURCHASE paperback book, Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You at http://tinyurl.com/EmpathAmazon. The e-book version is now available for Kindle, iPhone, iPad, and other digital reading devices.

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How Common is the Gift of Empathy?

We are seeing more and more people —especially children—awakening to this gift as the Earth is shifting into a higher realm of consciousness. Between fifteen and twenty percent of the population have an excess amount of sentient ability. They tend to become overloaded with the psychic energy of others to the point of compromising their own well-being. Yet, most of them do not know they are empaths, much less what to do about it. Currently, most medical doctors and counselors do not recognize empathy overload or know how to treat people who are suffering with this energy-related condition.
If an empath does not understand what is happening he may think he has some form of mental distress or disorder—especially if he hears, sees, and senses things that other people do not. Some empaths have been misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder and other mental illnesses.

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FREE Seminar: Empathy: Whose Stuff Is This Anyway?!

Saturday Aug 13

1:00pm - 2:00pm Central Time

This lecture by Yvonne Perry is about empathy and intuition and is geared toward helping empathic people who are unknowingly picking up and carrying the energy of others. Symptoms manifest as mood swings, depression, fatigue and illness.  Learn how to protect yourself from energy overload, set boundaries, and keep your auric field clear. For more info:  www.whostuffisthis.com

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PURCHASE paperback book, Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You at http://tinyurl.com/EmpathAmazon. The e-book version is now available for Kindle, iPhone, iPad, and other digital reading devices.

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VIDEO: Reverse Anxiety (for the Highly Sensitive Empath & others)

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Handle Empathic Children With Love in Emotionally Toxic Homes

By Caron Goode

Is your home emotionally toxic? That is…do you order your kids around, hit them, scream at them, forget to touch them with love, forget to be kind, ignore them when they cry or need you? Among the emotional factors that contribute to negative, even toxic, emotional atmospheres in homes are

 Surprise or intense outbursts from anger or control issues.
 Verbal putdowns or psychological bullying,
 Physical abuse, including spanking, inappropriate sexual touching, and harassment.
 Substance abuse and its vampire-like energy drain
 Resentment, lack of respect and inappropriate behavior derived from bullying tactics like pushing, hitting, punching and knuckling the head.

Any child will buckle under when subjected to such behaviors, and for empathic or emotional intuitives who feel more profoundly than the average child, such behaviors can cripple or devastate. The potential for emotional harm inflicted on sensitive children has far larger ramifications than for other temperament styles.

Take extra care with empathic children for health, immune system strength, and the ability to develop resilience. They must build to be able to stand up for themselves or know when to withdraw. All children need a champion, and empathic children need an especially caring one.

Kellie had two younger brothers, and all three children were close growing up in a single parent household. All three children remember a household of humor, movies and popcorn, long walks and stories at bedtime during their preschool years. Kellie’s mother, Leslie, remarried when Kellie was nine years old, and her brothers were eight and seven. The tenor of their household changed from happy to distressful. Their stepfather argued with Leslie, worked at night and slept during the days, and children felt like they walked on eggshells.

One morning before school, Kellie’s brothers wrestled and broke an item in their living room. No one confessed to the crime, so Leslie put all three children in the bathroom, closed the door, and told them if one of them didn’t confess, she would have their father spank all three of them.

Well, no one confessed, but empathic Kellie was a nervous wreck after waiting in the bathroom for two hours for her stepfather to come home. Her bladder was full, and when her stepfather walked through the bathroom door with a belt in his hand, she broke down and sobbed. He made each child pull down their pants, lean over his lap, and he spanked them with the belt. Kellie urinated all over him, sobbed, and was in shock.

She turned white and fell to the floor at being assaulted. When she curled into a fetal position, her brothers ran to Leslie to report that something was wrong. Kellie was put to bed where she ran a fever for three days and vomited as if she had the flu. As an adult, Kellie described her impression as seeing the evil in her stepfather and feeling vulnerable when spanked, “I felt like I swallowed his violence, absorbed it like a sponge, so intensely that I fell ill. I had to purge my body through vomiting.” I had nightmares well into my teen years of being assaulted again. From that day forward, I hated that man and my mother for the way she dealt with a child’s simple mistake.”

Please remember, handle empathic children with care, respect and kindness.

For further information, check out Raising Intuitive Children.

If you are an empath struggling with managing the energy overload that tends to accompany this gift, you might want to join us for a free training event: “Empaths Shifting into 2012: A Telesummit to Help Energy-Sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth” September 6, 13, 20, & 27, 2011. Sign up at http://live-spirit.com/empathytelesummit

© 2011 Dr. Goode is the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents International, a global online school for training successful, wealthy parenting coaches in home-based businesses. She is the author of fifteen books, including the international best seller, Kids Who See Ghosts, the national award-winner Raising Intuitive Children. See and review all of Dr. Goode’s books here.


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No Need to Fear What is Coming

Recently, the song by Blue Oyster Cult has been on my mind. After hearing the melody for about 24 hours (okay, I admit I'm slow sometimes), I realized that my guidance wanted me to pay attention to the lyrics. My husband (being a child of the 60s and owning an extensive library of 1960-1970 songs) had the song on his iPod. When I played the song, I had God bumps all over my body—a sign to me that I am hearing truth.

Yes, there is indeed a message for all of us as we approach the uncertainty of 2012. Our many lifetimes/incarnations on Earth have come and gone, yet we are still here. There is no need to fear what is coming next. Even if a calamity such as a pole shift or nuclear war were to wipe the human species from the planet, we will still live on in the afterlife and other realms of consciousness, for we are eternal souls. Those who are here to help the planet and humanity ascend into purer consciousness will lead the way. Follow the path that the ascended masters have shown us.

Romeo and Juliet represent our need to balance the divine feminine (yin) and divine masculine (yang) and redefine (consciously create) our own happiness rather than falling prey to the world system or allowing life to happen by default.

Things cannot go on as they have been. The veil separating us from our multi-dimensional selves is blowing away. This is the dawning of the age of light in which duality (us vs. them, good vs. evil) will not exist. Yin and yang are two sides of the same coin. We must realize and accept that we are one in Spirit. Have no fear of this change—the reaper.

Here are the lyrics to "Don't Fear the Reaper:"

All our times have come
Here but now they're gone
Seasons don't fear the reaper
Nor do the wind the sun or the rain (we can be like they are)
Come on baby (don't fear the reaper)
Baby take my hand (don't fear the reaper)
We'll be able to fly (don't fear the reaper)
Baby I'm your man

Valentine is done
Here but now they're gone
Romeo and Juliet
Are together in eternity (Romeo and Juliet)
40,000 men and women everyday (like Romeo and Juliet)
40,000 men and women everyday (redefine happiness)
Another 40,000 coming everyday (we can be like they are)

Love of two is one
Here but now they're gone
Came the last night of sadness
And it was clear that she couldn't go on
Then the door was open and the wind appeared
The candles blew out and disappeared
The curtains flew and then he appeared (saying don't be afraid)

Come on baby (and she had no fear)
And she ran to him (then they started to fly)
They looked backwards and said goodbye (she had become like they are)
She had taken his hand (she had become like they are)
Come on baby (don't fear the reaper)

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How to Avoid Being Hit by Someone Trying to Drain Your Energy

Ephesians 6:16 from the Bible has a message for us today. "Take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one."

I don't believe that an evil one such as a devil with horns and a pitchfork exists; however, there is detrimental energy all around us. Empaths feel this as well as picking up on positive energy.

How can we be more selective and pick up only what will benefit us? Let's say detrimental energy is the evil one. It might include the pulling or draining we feel around certain folks who inadvertently siphon our energy when we are not keenly aware of our own energy. I'm not saying that any person is evil—all they want is love and light. What they may not realize is that love and light is readily available from within themselves. It is in each of us because we are sparks of the Divine, which is love and light.

So how can we help these energy vampires without allowing them to drain us? By being filled with love and light—pure Source Consciousness—we broadcast light so strong that when a detrimental dart comes toward us, our energy deflects it like a feather being blown into a fan.

This short audio explains more.

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Helping Empathic Children Adjust in Families

by Caron Goode

Experts agree that happy children share characteristics like optimism and a sense of control. How can parents create a supportive family atmosphere to create successful intuitive children? This chapter starts with how to provide support for the emotional empath and help them develop calm and resilience.

 Our support goal for an emotional empath is to strengthen emotional energy, especially of the heart.
 Our second support goal is to empower resilience so they can interact with the environment, not withdraw from it.
 A third support goal is to monitor and maintain an emotionally healthy atmosphere in your home.

An empath’s vulnerability can also be their challenge in an emotionally toxic home where they have to learn to cut off their feelings so they can survive.

The primary home environment provides the first stable space in which an empathic child learns to value personal feelings and how to interpret the emotional atmosphere of the home. Margaret’ story shows how a psychic, sensitive, or empathic child can interpret a parent’s emotions, and her decision as a child affected her relationship with her father significantly.

Margaret’s was empathic, and she came from a large Italian family of seven children. All were talkative and emotionally expressive. Her family had a celebration for Margaret’s First Communion day and invited relatives and members of the church community. It was normal to see the men in her family drinking beer and sometimes wine at these family celebrations.

In the late afternoon, Margaret’s observed her father’s emotional energy for the first time: “I kept staring at Dad because I had never seen like storm clouds around him before. Usually Dad was all sunshine and smiles. I was seeing my father’s aura. His alcoholic haze looked like dark clouds, and his mood was angry. Even though I was used to his booming Italian voice, when his emotional tone changed to anger, his voice matched the dark clouds seen by my young eyes. I was confused and that day was the start of my withdrawal from his energy. Being in touch with his dark stormy emotions made me feel sick to my stomach. My father’s alcoholism grew through the years, and our relationship withered.”

Rather than Margaret withdrawing from her father to feel safe, another option would be to create communication and understanding between them—a path of resilience for Margaret. Research from The International Resilience Project reviewed what we mentioned in chapter one: “A child's own genetic make-up and temperament are fundamental to whether he or she will be resilient. That is, a child's vulnerability to anxiety, challenges, stress or unfamiliarity determines his or her self-perception, how he or she interacts with others, and how he or she addresses adversities.”

An emotional empath like Margaret needs an adult in the family to model acceptance of other’s differences. A mentor, whether a parent, sibling, neighbor or schoolteacher can help sensitive children negotiate adversity by talking about it. For example an adult could help Margaret clarify that her dad only looked foggy when drinking alcohol. How did his energy appear at other times? Perhaps Margaret could have brought to his attention the fact that his children did not respond well to the anger and alcohol mix. Conversations have to happen!!

For further information, check out Raising Intuitive Children and also the book, by Goldberg, E. H. A Guide to Promoting Resilience in children: Strengthening the Human Spirit. The International Resilience Project, part of the Early Childhood Development: Practice & Reflection series. Bernard Van Leer Foundation.

If you are an empath struggling with managing the energy overload that tends to accompany this gift, you might want to join us for a free training event: “Empaths Shifting into 2012: A Telesummit to Help Energy-Sensitive People Understand Their Spiritual Role on Earth” September 6, 13, 20, & 27, 2011. Sign up at http://live-spirit.com/empathytelesummit

© 2011 Dr. Goode is the founder of the Academy for Coaching Parents International, a global online school for training successful, wealthy parenting coaches in home-based businesses. She is the author of fifteen books, including the international best seller, Kids Who See Ghosts, the national award-winner Raising Intuitive Children. See and review all of Dr. Goode’s books here.

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PURCHASE paperback book, Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You at http://tinyurl.com/EmpathAmazon. The e-book version is now available for Kindle, iPhone, iPad, and other digital reading devices.

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Brene Brown—The Power of Vulnerability

Understanding shame and fear. Do you believe you are worthy of love, connection, and belonging?

Brene Brown calls herself a researcher storyteller. She studies human connection and what makes it work and not work. In this poignant, revealing, and humorous talk at TEDxHouston, she shares her personal quest to understand humanity. I invite you to watch this 20-minute video, and then watch it again. There is a gift here for anyone committed to making a difference in the world.



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