Being Empathic As a Child

Are you an empath? Do you feel other people’s emotions and their pain? On a more positive note, you may also feel their great joy when your heart opens up to someone next to you. Helping other people realize they have similar empathic experiences and how to use it to their benefit is very rewarding.

When Sheryl Glick was my guest on We Are One in Spirit Podcast, she spoke about empaths and spiritual gifts. I’ll share a few highlights from that interview here and you may listen to the entire interview at http://dld.bz/bqFzj.

Yvonne: Sheryl was an empath as a child, but was not aware of it. Her father, who is a doctor, was not aware of the depth of Sheryl’s sensitivity and neither were the teachers and medical people who dealt with her. So they only considered her to be a bright sensitive child. They thought she would outgrow the stomachaches, the anxious frightened feelings that she expressed to them on a regular basis. This discomfort she often experienced was not her own discomfort. She was very sensitive to the energy around her and to other people. Now that she knows how to work with it she helps herself and other people to be healthy, vibrant, and to use this as a spiritual gift to make people more comfortable with who they are. This great talent.

Sheryl: It’s a great gift from spirit. Some people will say it’s not because they don’t want to feel uncomfortable. But it’s a great way to learn about the world and yourself through having heightened senses and feelings. We’re here on this earth to have an emotional experience and to learn more about ourselves. We can’t always just feel the good feelings; sometimes we have to feel challenging experiences and energies so we can learn how to balance those energies and balance our physical life with it. Our soul and spiritual life become mature—we are both physical beings and spiritual beings.

Yvonne: Whether we realize it or not, we are constantly working with energy. If you are an empath, you are energy sensitive. The reason this is so draining and you feel so much discomfort is because you have not learned how to work with energy. Perhaps you’ve not learned how to use your upper chakras, like the six chakra (the third eye) or seventh chakra (cosmic input), to receive a picture rather than receiving sensory input in your body. Once you learn how to work with your upper chakras, you will not take so much into your second (sacral) and third (emotional) energy centers. You will be using your upper chakras and the information will be coming from source rather than from the person who is leaking or siphoning energy.

Sheryl: Let me give a little example about working with the lower chakras. When I was in college I went to the San Gennaro Fair in New York City. At this Italian festival there were so many people. All of a sudden my heart started to palpitate. I felt anxious in my stomach. I felt heavy in my legs. I felt pressure on my head. I said “What is this? Why am I feeling like this? This is a wonderful place.”

There was so many people, so many emotions—some happy, some angry, some fearful, some straining to buy something, someone making decisions—and it was just too much energy coming in for me at that point because I had no protection. I now know how to protect myself and help others to protect themselves in any situation. I could now go to that place without having a negative impact again because I know how to handle my own energy and the energy of other people. At that time I didn’t know what that was all about.

I’m sure there are many people listening today who have these sensitivities and think they are a hypochondriac perhaps, or they think there is something wrong with them. There’s nothing wrong with them. They are just very gifted people. Sensitives who have the need to develop this connection from Spirit can develop on all levels. Perhaps they can go from being an empath to an intuitive to a healer to a psychic and a medium because all these spiritual gifts are available to all of us. If we work and grow ourselves instead of blaming others and focusing on what other people are doing. We concentrate on learning more about what makes us vibrant and happy and fulfilled in this life.

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Do You Let People Drain Your Energy?

I was one who was an intercessor in the church and you can imagine the stuff I picked up praying for people. It almost killed me before I realized what was happening. If you are walking through the supermarket when all of a sudden you start feeling really sad or angry that’s not your stuff. You don’t have to carry that. You can simply visualize a hose sucking that detrimental energy out of you and your aura into a ball. Then imagine you are tossing that ball into the air while asking Saint Germaine to transmute it with the violent flame. It’s that simple and it happens immediately.

Now if you get a bad hit, say from somebody who is trying to drain your energy, you may suddenly start feeling sick, depressed, or angry. You don’t have to take that kind of abuse. If somebody was trying to break into your house you wouldn’t just stand there and open the door for them. You would barricade it, call the cops, or do whatever you needed to keep out the intruder. When you say NO to psychic vampires who are leeching off your energy, you are setting a boundary and saying, “This is my space, my stuff, and you stay out of it.” If people are trying to leech off your energy or trying to drain you or toss their sickness onto you, it’s just as rude as them coughing on you intentionally while knowing they have a virus. So you would stop that, wouldn’t you? Well, you can do the same thing energetically when somebody is trying to siphon from you. Talk to them and their guides spirit to spirit by imagining them sitting in front of you. Or write a letter and then burn it without giving it to them. This sets an energetic boundary and is very effective because we are one in spirit and we can speak to one another without having a conflict in person (or by phone, email, etc.) Everything is energy and what we’re learning is the right use of energy. Incorrect use of energy would be allowing it to drain you.

Many empaths go into the health care industry or are caregivers, who are among the sick and suffering all the time. Without proper education on how to manage energy, these precious souls burn out quickly; it can be extremely draining. How did Jesus, as an empath, manage to stay strong while in the midst of the sick and the outcast of society? How can you control how much of your energy you give away in these kinds of situations?

What was Jesus doing when he was not with his disciples or when he wasn’t with the crowds or teaching? The Bible says over and over again that he was praying. There’s the key, the spiritual connection. Jesus knew that he was one with God—a divine individuation of God, just as we are. Even though he knew this, he also realized he had to maintain his connection in the midst of all the distractions and the sickness and suffering around him. He knew that his success was in his spiritual purification processes and his prayer effort that enhanced his divine connection. He had to keep that line open at all times in order to know the will of God in each situation. That’s his example to us; it’s a gift. Anytime we are feeling out of sync or feeling drained it’s an indication or a message that we need to pray or do some deep breathing, go for a walk in nature, or do something to pull away from the crowd and connect with Spirit.

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When Compassion Becomes Toxic

When understanding and caring for others goes overboard, it can violate the energetic boundaries of others; then it is unhealthy because we become enmeshed with that person and we no longer see the situation with clarity. We can get dragged down with the mental and emotional energy and forget to care for our own spirit and body. This is known as codependency.

It's much better to transmute the suffering of others than to become entangled in it. The way to do this is to focus on the God-Light within you rather than seeing the person as pitiful or the situation as impossible. Everything we see in our outer world is a reflection of what is going on in our inner world (thoughts and emotions). We create our own drama for a reason and as long as it serves us to indulge in harmful behaviors, we will continue to do so. This is why so many people come to a "dark night of the soul." The God-consciousness within will either leave us to our own destructive devices or create a difficult situation in order to draw our attention to what needs to be changed in the mind and emotions.

Many people say that empaths can't help from picking up energy. That is a false assumption held in position by the lower self, which wants to keep us in bondage to fear. Empaths can't help from recognizing and sensing energy, but we can and MUST stop allowing detrimental thoughts and discordant emotions to rule us if we are ever going to master our body and ascend into purer consciousness.

I've written a book for empaths: Whose Stuff Is This? ~ Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You (http://whosestuffisthis.blogspot.com/p/purchase-book.html). Chapter 10 teaches highly-sensitive people how to set boundaries with people who want to siphon energy from others. Becoming mature as an empath means learning to wisely manage energy and nip discord in the bud without allowing it to grow from the first emotional impression or mental thought that is stimulated when you encounter negativity.

Shifting into Purer Consciousness ~ Integrating Spiritual Transformation with the Human Experience. (http://shiftingintopurerconsciousness.com). In this book about the end of the age of Pisces, I talk about how to transmute suffering while denying discordant thoughts and negative emotions the right to infiltrate your inner world.

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Are You Addicted to Fear? Learn How Not To Be!

If you don't make it your business to overcome fear, you better believe it'll try to overcome you. Most people are subservient to this emotion though they may not know it. I define fear as the emotional response to danger, perceived or real. What underscores fear in all its permutations is the feeling that you won't be all right.

Emotional Action Step from "Emotional Freedom". Harness Your Biology to Quiet Fear.
To short-circuit fear and turn off your flight-or-flight response, you'll need to train your brain to send chemicals to counteract them. Otherwise, fear and its hormones will make you crazed. In contrast, with a calm biology it's easier to find courage by practicing the combined techniques below to quiet your system.

To achieve immediate and longer term results:

• Eliminate caffeine, sugar, and other stimulants--these fuel the fight-or-flight response.
• Avoid people who reinforce your fear--they are biological irritants; stick close to emotional nurturers.
• Stay away from violent newscasts, traffic jams, arguments, or other stress inducers.

When you're in the grip of a fear-driven adrenaline rush, try these quick solutions.

• Use this Progressive Relaxation Technique: In a comfortable position, sitting or lying down, take a few deep breaths while letting your body go as limp as possible. When you're ready, begin by tightening the muscles in your toes...hold to a count of ten... then relax. Enjoy the relief of tension melting. Do the same with flexing your foot muscles, and move slowly through your entire body: calves, legs, stomach, back, neck, jaw, face, contracting and releasing each area.
• Immerse yourself in hot water to relax muscular tension as soon as possible.

Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s new book “Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life” (Three Rivers Press, 2011)

These practical changes, which allow you to take control of your body, can be tremendously effective in restoring calm. You don’t have to be passive while battered by fear. The victim mentality takes many forms. It requires courage to assume control, to say, “I’m going to be responsible for my biological self-care.” Educating your body how to respond makes you emotionally freer.


Judith Orloff MD, an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA and intuition expert, is author of the New York Times Bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life (Three Rivers Press, 2011) Her other bestsellers are Positive Energy, Intuitive Healing, and Second Sight. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. She passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness. www.drjudithorloff.com

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Empaths Becoming More Aware

One empath I spoke with said he is becoming more aware of the energy around him and the spiritual gifts he has. Yet at the same time he has been somewhat afraid of it. For him, this stems from religious philosophies, which told him that these are not gifts of God—that they are really from the devil. You may have been brought up to believe that these types of sensitivities are evil, but at the same time (even as a child) you’ve had awareness, sensations, feelings, or inner knowings. If so, you may be a little conflicted about how to approach their use. Perhaps you haven’t tried to develop these gifts because you are afraid you’ll go too far or don’t know what kind of boundaries you should set.

First let’s take a look at a beloved teacher, Jesus. Once he was in a crowd of people when a woman touched the hem of his garment. Instantly he knew virtue (healing energy) had gone out of him and he asked, “Who touched me?” He was that sensitive! He felt it when someone was tapping into his electromagnetic field even though she only touched his clothing! I remind you of the verse that tells us that every good and perfect gift, spiritual gifts, comes from God. There are many spiritual gifts listed in 1 Corinthians 13: the gift of prophecy, the gift of tongues, the gift of the interpretation of tongues, discerning of spirit, healing, working of miracles, etc. These are listed for our benefit so we understand that we have been gifted in some way. And there’s a responsibility to use those gifts with love. We weren’t given these gifts to hide them from the world or be afraid of them. They are tools to help us and others. When we have these intuitive gifts, it is very important to nurture our own spirit and set boundaries to keep from being bombarded by energy from everybody out there. We must love ourselves before we can love others or else there’s nothing to give. Spending time with God-Goddess is like refueling a car. You can’t run very long without more juice!

When Jesus was walking the Earth some people wanted to stone him some wanted to throne him. There was a vast difference in perspective and what people thought of him. We empaths have that same dilemma. Other people may not understand you. Maybe they are afraid of the gifts you have. Through our religious teachings we have been taught that the discerning of spirits or being able to communicate with those in the afterlife is of the devil. I’ve been called a necromancer by a close member of my family. Obviously, my gifts are not appreciated there. Does that stop me from using them? No, I use them because I have been given these gifts and I have a responsibility to use them wisely; and that’s what I intend to do. Do I flaunt them in front of my disapproving family members? No, that’s what the Bible refers to as casting your pearls before swine. I'm not calling anyone a pig. I'm saying that there’s no need in putting something so valuable out there and allowing your gifts and sensitivities to be trampled. You can decide who you reveal your gifts to and who you use them with. In fact I’ve made it a practice that unless I have permission to pray for someone I just don’t do it. You can easily get your energy tangled up in someone else’s by meddling energetically in another person’s stuff.

Some people have a great sensitivity to energy and they see things or get impressions. They may intuitively know what is going on in another person’s life. You are not obligated to help every person you encounter, but there is something you can do. Before you decide to get involved pray about it. Breathe deeply for a few minutes and ask yourself if you should do/say anything about what you have discovered. How do you feel when you think of saying something or offering to help? Does it feel right? Do you have pain anywhere in your body or emotions? If so, avoid getting involved on a human level. If a person has not asked you to help them, they may not want your help. Do you feel lighter, joyful, or happy when you think of helping this person or mentioning what you have discerned? If so, ask for wisdom about what to do and how to approach the person.

If you keep thinking of someone and sense they need help, you may or may not need to approach them on a human level. You can always send love and light to guide their way. Simply call upon the angels to help. Imagine a beautiful beam of light coming from the cosmos, maybe pink or green. Pink represents the heart or love; green represents healing. See this beam of light going toward and surrounding the person in need. This powerful energy is like a stem cell that has divine intelligence and knows where it is needed and what to do when it gets there. This not only gives them energy to work with, it gives them clarity so they can make good decisions. They may be able to feel that strength undergirding and supporting them. If something needs changing, they can apply that energy however they want to. If it’s healing, if it’s a relationship, if it’s emotional/mental issue, it doesn’t matter, the love and light is universal. Just send that energy and let them do with it what they want as spirit directs them. By sending love and light, you are not trying to manipulate any outcome or change anything in another person’s circumstances or life. You’re not violating their free will or “fixing” a situation their soul has created from which to learn its lesson. Sending positive energy to someone is like leaving a gift on their doorstep. It provides what they need but they never know who sent the gift and you won’t have to take on other people’s stuff. You will know who and when you need to help as well as how. If you follow your inner guidance, you’ll intuitively know how far you need to go with your help and what you need to do to strengthen your own boundaries.

If someone asks you to pray for them, then you have a responsibility to use your gifts. But, rather than using your body or emotional center (third chakra) to feel and sense, use your sixth chakra, which is also called the third eye, to see or know where you need to direct energy. It’s when we try to operate out of our own emotions and our own physical strength that we are going to be drained. But when we operate from divine power, the place of the sacred heart, it’s not us doing the work; we’re simply being a conduit. We are able to be the light, and by being the light, we’re being God. And we don’t have to worry about backlash or be concerned about what other people think.

So if you are worried about what you have been taught regarding your intuitive gifts or concerned about what other people are saying, remember where the laws of God are written. The laws that the psalmist David was talking about are not written on tablets of stone or in a book, nor are they found in religion. They are written in your heart. If something doesn’t feel right, and you have conflict about it, always go with the truth your heart reveals to you.

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Feeling the Energy of Certain Places

Mt. Shasta, the Himalayas, Sedona, and other places around the world have a high vortex of extraordinary energy that you can feel when you are there. As empaths, we can feel energy anywhere—good, bad, or indifferent. We even feel the energy at the Wal-Mart! When some empaths walk into a shopping center they may suddenly get very sluggish because the energy is very heavy whenever people are making a lot of choices. Decisions about spending money, may generate a feeling of lack, anger, or fear. They see someone wearing a nice outfit and perhaps there is jealousy. There are a lot of negative or lower vibrations in public places—some tend to have more harmful or uncomfortable unpleasant energies than others. But, sensitive people can feel all of it.

It’s important to focus on the positive, uplifting energy of your own divinity within you whenever you are in public. Think of how you feel the wonderful divine energy when you are in the beauty of nature! Mentally go there to rejuvenate and renew yourself by feeling grateful, blessed, loved, and happy. By spending five minutes in your Sacred Heart Center before you leave home, you can carry this high-vibrational energetic signature with you all day. It will beam forth from your heart full of love. A cup that is overflowing cannot receive anything more, it must spill over. And, since your fullness is from an unlimited Source, you never have to run dry; you can continually be filled with Spirit.

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Let Your Yes Be Yes and Your No Be No

Say the word “yes” right now to yourself.  Yes.  That vibration is what we get when we are excited about helping people, or healing, which is what many would say we are born to do.  What happens is we get out of balance when we say yes too often or want to help too much. 

No is a very powerful tool in setting boundaries.  And, who doesn’t want better boundaries?  One of the ways to create this magical state is to learn to say “no.”  Think of the situations in your life right now where perhaps you’ve been saying yes too much.  This may give you a feeling in the pit of your stomach or a feeling in your gut that is asking you to do the opposite. This vibration may cause you to start thinking, “Hmmmm, maybe I should say no.” Maybe spirit or my highest self is asking you to say no for the sake of yourself and everyone else.

If we don’t have respect and boundaries for ourselves as empaths, we’re not going to be much help to others.  I encourage you to make a pledge to yourself that you are no longer going to do _____ (whatever your gut is saying you’re doing too much of).  For some if may be as simple as refusing to engage someone in a 5-minute conversation—maybe they are asking you for some kind of advice.  This is real common, we all have co-workers, loved ones, family, and friends who call upon us because we have healing ability.  People are for the most part naturally drawn to empaths. We’re magnetic and people want our energy or input.

It might be as simple as just saying “no” and walking away from a 2- to 5-minute conversation. You know that those 5-minute conversations can attack your nervous system. Many develop chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia. These diseases in which are energetic origin and manifest in many empaths as the result of over engagement.  When we perpetually over engage, our nervous systems shut down over time. It tries to protect us by shutting the chakras or meridians so we don’t take on too much. It’s attempting to slow us down. It’s important that you listen to your gut and learn to say no. 

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Dr. Michael Smith is a coach, licensed counselor, healing practitioner, spiritual medium, and self-help author. His book for empaths is Navigating 2012: Thriving in Earth's New Age.  Access Dr. Smith's free materials including his monthly newsletter on (http://www.Empathconnection.com).

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Is the Energy of Others Draining You?

Empaths are reporting that they can sense a deep emotional connection to other people. Sometimes it’s very draining and they are not sure how to deal with it.

Empaths are energy sensitive beings; that is part of who we are and we’re always going to be that way. However, there is a way you can filter the energy and calm it down and have your own personal peace so you are able to radiate peace from within. In chapter 9 of Whose Stuff Is This?, I give a list of things that people can do to help ground and center the energy they are dealing with and I give some visualization techniques that can be used to work with energy. People have reported that these exercises are really helping them. That’s because they raise the vibration not only of your body but also your auric field and your soul’s vibration. So the detrimental things around you tend to bounce off.
If you are familiar with the Bible you may recall the scripture about putting up a shield of faith to quench the fiery darts of the evil one. We’re not calling anyone evil but we do have an electromagnetic field around us that can be strengthened with some spiritual purification practices such as deep breathing, prayers or meditation, affirmations, or grounding and centering exercises. So when that detrimental energy comes to us it hits that field like a bubble, which is flexible and is not going to pop like a soap bubble. It’s more like amniotic fluid surrounding a baby; it cushions and protects the beautiful life within. It’s the same way with us; when our aura (field) is strengthened, we are not as impacted by the environment outside of our bubble. 

Many times empaths allow their auras to be thin and they pick up a lot of stuff. They tend to mesh their our field with other people’s fields, especially on a crowded subway, on a bus, or in a shopping mall where there is a cacophony of energy running wild. These are the places where empaths are the most uncomfortable. When there is a large crowd of people or there is a large crowd of people in a situation where there is a lot of grief or mourning going on, we tend to pick that up quite easily.

Some of those exercises in my book will definitely help strengthen the aura. There are some practices on whosestuffisthis.com that will help people to be able to put up better boundaries. I’m not going to say protective barriers because we’re not walling off anybody and there’s really nothing to be protected from; it is a good practice to maintain your own energy field and body so you can continue to do the work that you’ve been called to do. 

When I pick up something that I know is not mine, I realize now that I’ve gotten it for the purpose of transmuting that energy. One way to do that is to call on the ascended master Saint Germaine and the violent flame of transmutation. I imagine that any detrimental energy within me is being drawn outward and into a ball of light. It’s coming out of my field and out of my body into a ball of light. Then I toss the ball into the air and allow Saint Germaine to zap it with the violet flame and transmute it into love, joy, peace, happiness—all the positive things that we want more of on the planet. You’re using a higher frequency by calling on an ascended master. You are not keeping it in your body or in your field where it could to do more damage. 

On whosestuffisthis.com there are resources, articles, visualizations, books, and other things that can help empaths start understanding how to use energy. 
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The Empath and the Internet

The Pleiadian Light through Hannah Beaconsfield Question: Do people who are empaths have as difficult a time when surfing the Internet as they do when they pick up energies from other individuals, places or groups of people?

First, we wish to point out that your current designation of “empaths” who have difficulties when taking on outside energies defines a person who is in a state of transition. Those who are sensitive and open to picking up other people’s energy and feelings are in the process of developing expanded perceptions on many different levels.

The empaths who are discomforted by other people’s feelings and energies are learning by way of their reactions that, first of all, these are not their feelings; they have been taken on from others. This creates the awareness of the phenomenon for empaths and then opens a way to hold expanded perceptions but still maintain their own power base, personal integrity and freedom from unwanted attachments.

In other words, the empath “feels the pain” of others, initially, to help them recognize their abilities. The discomforts prime them to search for a means of self-protection and to use the gift to aid the ascension of others, as well as themselves.

Empaths need to be like a sturdy pitcher, which can take on and hold any liquid without effect or changes to their own form and substance. The pitcher/empath may then pour the liquid back to the world around them as a means of disseminating information or they may transmute the liquid/data and then pour it back to the world in an altered form. This could be transmuting dark aspects or illnesses and integrating them with positive energy.

There are many who are offering advice on how to protect oneself and use the gift constructively. If you are an uncomfortable empath, ask the universe to guide you to a source with which you feel most aligned in order to learn how to use your abilities and still protect yourself. Grounding is imperative, as it is with all elements of the transformational process.

A number of years ago we wrote about empaths as “good Samaritans” who helped others with their burdens. We stand by this concept as one of the means by which empathetic skills can be of value to others. This is one of the basic patterns of life relationships. Parents will take on difficult situations so their children don’t have to. Your current Earth life may take on circumstances for a former incarnation in order to resolve conditions that couldn’t be handled in the previous life. And even your animal companions will take on some challenges to relieve the burdens you carry. In this way the Samaritan concept applies to the situation.

Now, as to the effects of the internet on empaths: When you step into cyberspace, it is like entering a foreign country. Although, for the most part, your language is spoken in this land and you are becoming more and more familiar with the terrain. There are still many areas of this virtual world that are like strange towns with people who may be very different from you. You don’t really know what kinds of energies they generate and radiate and how they may affect you.

The ordinary 3D person, with dense vibrations, generally skips from one site to another oblivious of any potential problems and without ill effects. For empaths, however, this can be another source of possible difficulties. You call this foreign country a “virtual reality,” which is a reality that has all the effects of the material world that you know, without actually fulfilling the definition as such. If the empath operates from a deep sense of unity, which is the true nature of all that is, they are open to picking up vibrations, feelings or intensions from any source including those received through the internet. Therefore, the empath is vulnerable to this virtual world the same as their every day living plane.

Empaths may find that they feel uncomfortable or ill after they have been on line. The reactions may vary depending on what sites have been visited, as they would when visiting different parts of a strange city. There may be tension in the neck, shoulders or lower back from unconsciously resisting energies. More and more Earth individuals will be facing these experiences as they enter the ascension process because it involves opening to new energy levels across the board.

The help for this circumstance is the same as it is for handling anything in your work-a-day world: You recognize what is happening and then you learn and institute protective measures. Eventually this skill will not be felt as an intrusion into your own reality. Those who do take on the form of empathy that allows for symptoms and feelings to be absorbed, will do so consciously for the purpose of transmuting energies for healing and other forms of transformation. When the changes are complete and the healing or other results have taken place in the subject, the empath simply releases the connection and no longer experiences any residue of the subject’s problem.

As we stated earlier, each empath must seek the best method suited to their individuality to protect themselves and still channel their gifts constructively. Each time the empath prepares to go on line, they need to take a moment to meditate or pray, asking that their individual unit is held sacrosanct when exposed to disrupting energies. This is the same as they would do when they prepare to interact with their living plane world or confront difficult people.

Remember we are always close by to help you, as are other members of your ET family, angels, and other personal power sources. You have a huge backup of benign energies working with you. You are never handling these challenges alone. We wish you Peace.


[Note from the channel: I recently read a meditation by Cathy Chapman who channels Amma. I’ll paraphrase it here as I adjusted it for my own use.

Many of us focus on Archangel Michael as a source of protective energy. I’ve asked to use his sword to sever negative attachments and create a protective shield. Cathy Chapman’s channeling pushes this type of request to a new level that I found immediately powerful.

She suggests that you touch your heart center using Archangel Michael’s sword, activating unconditional love energy and setting the chakra spinning. You then absorb the essence of the sword into your heart and say with all the power inherent in this vision, “I AM THE SWORD!”

The strength of the vision is in becoming the power source as opposed to being the passive recipient of help from an outside energy. I live in New York City and am hit with all sorts of energies the moment I step out side. I have been using this imagery and these words and I’m amazed at how effective it is.

If you want to read Cathy Chapman’s article containing this information, it is in the February 2012 issue of The Sedona Journal of Emergence.]

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When Both Partners in a Relationship Are Empaths

Today’s post is the eighth in a series of helpful articles for highly-sensitive people. The full presentation was given February 14, 2012 by Yvonne Perry in the Fizzle to Sizzle Relationship Telesummit hosted by Live-Spirit.com. You may listen to the entire presentation by clicking the arrow in the player below.

This is an especially vulnerable relationship because whatever one is feeling and picking up from public venues or other people is then shared with the partner and both of them feel bad.
Empaths tend to be somewhat codependent to begin with, so it’s natural to blame ourselves when someone else is upset; or we may try to fix the situation or calm the other person. We fear rocking the boat or making things worse, so many times we absorb our partner’s emotional energy into the cells of our body or the electromagnetic field surrounding our body. These energetic burdens can make an empath emotionally and physically sick. When both partners are empaths, they share this misery to a whole new degree of suffering!

But there are benefits to two empaths being in a relationship. Things can work out well if both empaths recognize what is going on with one another and each is actively pursuing spiritual purification practices to clear the energy from their body and auric fields. It’s when neither partner is diligent about keeping their auric field clear that real trouble manifests. Once each partner understands their gift and begins practicing the right use of energy as outlined in the exercises today and the teachings of this telesummit, you will understand one another better than anyone else on the planet. You both have experienced what it’s like to be dragged down by energetic burdens and now with these new tools, you will be able to remind one another to stay focused on transmuting detrimental energy using purer forms of energy rather than allowing the body, mind, and emotions as a punching bag!

There is no need to wall off emotionally from your partner. You will be able to open your heart to divine love without the fear of getting hurt again. Whenever your protection mechanism urges you to avoid getting too close to your partner, you can remind yourself to be filled with love and light from the sacred heart space. Being filled, you can then allow that love to flow through you without siphoning from your partner to get your needs met. You can enjoy being sexually intimate with him or her because being in close proximity merges your auric fields, which you are both keeping clear. This compounds and intensifies the loving, heightened emotional energy of both partners. If one is carrying negativity, the positive charge of the other partner can lift this by sending it to the flame of St. Germaine.

If you are an empath is it imperative that you manage your own energy regardless of what your partner does. You can remind your partner to practice what you’ve learned today, but you can only carry so much for your partner without it wearing you down. Carrying the detrimental energy that you pick up from your partner is a sure way to lose your own identity, miss your higher purpose, and create more personal suffering and relationship misery than is necessary. Don’t be afraid of setting boundaries with your partner who is not pulling his or her weight in this double-empath relationship. I realize that saying “no” to someone is difficult. We fear that if the person responds with an unpleasant emotion that we will take into our personal auric field. You don’t have to do that.

There are no victims in a relationship. Both partners have agreed at some level to participate in the drama they create. It is up to you to see yourself as an empowered individual with a divine mission to accomplish and to do whatever is necessary to get yourself to a safe and healthy place in life. I’m living proof that you don’t have to allow the gift of empathy to drain you or control your destiny.

In closing, remember to focus on the love within yourself, not on your problems. Anyone can do this by opening to sacred love that resides within their own heart. To know that your soul is infused with love and feel the joy of living in union with the I AM presence brings true healing and a revelation of the ascended version of your soul. In that rendition, the heaviness, fatigue, discomfort, or illness you may be experiencing now does not exist. The energy for helping making this shift is here now.

Clearing Emotional Energy with a Partner

This post is the seventh in a series of helpful articles for highly-sensitive people. The full presentation was given February 14, 2012 by Yvonne Perry in the Fizzle to Sizzle Relationship Telesummit hosted by Live-Spirit.com. You may listen to the entire presentation by clicking the arrow in the player below.

Let’s look at some of the ways you can help to dislodge and move emotional energy through your own or your partner’s electromagnetic field:

Smudging with Sage

The Native American practice of smudging with sage has proven to be very helpful in removing negativity from a person’s aura or an area or space. This requires the leaves of a sage plant (or rosemary, cedar, or thyme) to be lit with fire in a heat-safe bowl. The smoke of the smoldering embers is fanned in all direction to cover the person or place to be cleared. You can smudge yourself alone or you and your partner can smudge one another.





Grounding and Centering

Including a walk in nature or eating a healthy meal, there are many techniques for grounding your energy. The one I like best is a simple visualization.

Imagine a white beam of light coming from the cosmos into the crown of your head, flowing down through your body and aura, touching every atom in your body before extending from the soles of your feet into the very core of the earth. I also see gold sparkles of light cleansing and clearing my aura. Then, visualize the slow-vibrating, nurturing energy of Mother Earth coming into your feet and up your legs, merging with the cosmic energy in your body and aura before flowing upward and out through the crown of your head. Visualize it in full detail for the first dozen or so times you try this. Once you are familiar with how this feels and works, your subconscious may begin the process automatically whenever you think of grounding and centering.

Adjusting Aura Size

When the electromagnetic field around your body gets too large and you are doing nothing to fill it with light and love, it can become cluttered with all kinds of mental and emotional energy from those around you. After you ground and center, visualize your clean, clear aura (an egg-shaped bubble around your body) slowing drawing in closer to your body. Once you become aware of how it feels to have your aura at about two to two and a half feet (arm’s length) from your body, you will notice when it has roamed into other people’s territory.

Sending Love and Light to Your Partner

Rather than taking on the energy of another person, offer compassion without paying a personal price. Find your heart center and feel the love that is there. Expand it while imagining a ray of pink or green light extending from your heart and a ray of purple or white light shining from your third eye (6th chakra located between your eyebrows). Direct these beams of light toward your partner and filling his/her subtle bodies and physical body. You can do this with anyone who needs healing. This allows you to send rays of healing and loving light to the afflicted person without getting entangled with their mental and emotional issues. Refuse to allow your emotions to engage in feeling what that person is feeling. This is not being hard-hearted; it is using the mental power of your third eye as an intuitive tool rather than using your body and emotions as a punching bag. The third eye resides in a higher dimension. Therefore, you are not using your limited human faculties to do the work of transmutation.

St. Germaine’s Flame of Transmutation

Emotions, feelings, and even illnesses are energetic imprints to which an empath is highly sensitive. Everything is energy. It cannot be destroyed, but it can be changed or transmuted. Together or individually you can call upon ascended master Saint Germaine and his violet flame of transmutation to lift an energetic burden and convert the detrimental energy into beneficial energy.

I visualize detrimental energy being formed into a ball and lifted into the heavens where it is “zapped” by the violet flame of St. Germaine. This flame bursts the energy ball into millions of golden fragments representing love, light, wisdom, peace, joy, and other positive emotions and then falling like a gentle golden snow upon the earth, myself, and the person who was relieved of this energetic burden.

These are very easy exercises, but with diligent practice, they can make a world of difference in your life and relationship.

To the empath, I say: begin these exercises as soon as you realize you are picking up energy that does not belong to you.

To the non-empath partner of an empath, I say thank you for reminding us of our spiritual role and right use of this gift. Your help in serving as a non-judgmental observing guardian is greatly beneficial. However, it does not exempt the empath from doing his/her part in keeping his/her own energy field clear.

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What are Ascension Symptoms?

Ascension symptoms might include anxiety or panic attacks, body sensations, or a change of relationship or careers. We may be experiencing creativity or energy surges; some of us are decluttering, detoxing, and simplifying our lives because we realize that we just don’t need so much stuff. Old things just don’t have the meaning that they once did. And we are more interested in participating in our spiritual evolution than we are in accumulating a lot of goods.

Other ascension symptoms that other people have reported are depression and a loss of interest in things once held a lot of value to them, a desire for freedom—we see this in occupy Wall Street with those who desire to be out from under the oppressing rule of the powers that be. People are experiencing a change in dietary preferences, and some may have embraced a huge switch in personality. Some empaths may be experiencing electric disturbances; they may walk up to a computer and all of a sudden there’s an electronic disturbance coming from the high cosmic frequency on earth now.

People are experiencing fatigue and headaches, heart palpitations, even hot flashes, and I’m not talking about just menopausal women. Even men are having hot flashes as kundalini energy arises. Some people exhibit increased emotional responses, and note that their intuition and psychic gifts are increasing.

Miraculous healings are occurring as we better understand how energy works. We may find a change in our libido because we are seeing our sexual energy as sacred energy and something to be held in high esteem rather than just going wherever the pleasure leads us. Our mental thoughts are changing. We may even have ringing in the ears or other auditory sensations like hearing voices. We are receiving inspirations from another dimension. People are having insomnia or their sleep patterns are changing. They are having a lot of dreams. Some people are reporting that issues are being revisted or healed at a deeper level. We are seeing a vision, our psychic vision as well as our physical vision opening up to more perception. We are sensing a more joyful attitude even in the midst of chaos. Many of us feeling young or seem to have a spirit of youthfulness or playfulness. Some symptoms are good things and others are a little unpleasant but all are a part of the shift or signs of ascension.

How about you? Have you experienced any of these ascension symptoms I’ve talked about? Please leave a comment to share your story.

For more information about managing ascension symptoms, see http://integratingfrequencies.blogspot.com/.

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When Only One Partner Is an Empath

Today’s post is the sixth in a series of helpful articles for highly-sensitive people. The full presentation was given February 14, 2012 by Yvonne Perry in the Fizzle to Sizzle Relationship Telesummit hosted by Live-Spirit.com. You may listen to the entire presentation by clicking the arrow in the player below.

Honestly communicating whatever is on your heart and having your partner understand, accept, and show compassion toward you is a legitimate human need. However, most empaths can’t tell you everything that is on their heart and what is really bothering them because they tend to always feel out of sorts and may not know why. They carry much more than their own emotional and mental stuff. When an empath absorbs another person’s emotional energy into the cells of their body or the electromagnetic field surrounding the body, these energetic burdens can make us emotionally and physically sick. Some people don’t even know about being an empath much less what to do about it.  Many couples rarely recognize the connection between the moodiness, bouts of depression or crying—even physical illness of the empathic partner—unless they start to think back and realize that these episodes tend to occur after being in a crowd or around someone who is negative or in need of healing.

To the non-empath partner, the empath seems emotionally weak, mentally unstable, or willy-nilly about what they want in life. What they really want is peace at all costs—most empaths hate confrontation—but they go about trying to create peace by taking on the burdens of others rather than by raising their own vibration and working with purer energies to transmute the suffering around them.

When someone an empath is close to is unkind, it’s natural for the empath to blame themselves. It’s also natural for them or their partner to try to fix the situation or calm the other person. Trying to talk to an empath about what’s wrong in the middle of an emotional episode is probably going to backfire. The empath is already emotionally overloaded and anything the partner does to try do may only add to the burden. It is best to have a plan of action for when your empathic partner is experiencing empathic stress. This is so simple you will be amazed how well it works.

When your empath partner is suffering with compassion fatigue, offer to smudge him or her with sage; send love and light to the partner; adjust your aura size, ground and center your own energy, and remind your partner to do the same.

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Integrating Cosmic Vibrations Affects Others

One day last summer I sensed that I needed to do a Goddess ritual in my backyard. As I stood in the garden doing the Light Absorption Technique from What is Lightbody? by Tashira Tachi-ren. My arms started tingling. I thought an insect had landed on me, but there were too many places that felt as though something was swirling on my skin. After about three minutes, I offered my thanks and my gifts and closed the circle. The tingling stopped immediately. I stayed outside for another 15 minutes and watered the garden before I went back inside to record on my keyboard a melody that I had been singing to my grandson ever since he was born.

A few hours later, I texted to see how my empathic son was doing. He was with three other people at the time, but he texted back asking if I was okay. I told him I was marvelous. He was sure something was wrong because he had been fine all day, but when he got my text he was blown into a panic attack and wondered if I was really okay. That’s when I realized that the accelerated energy that I was integrating was affecting his auric field. I purposely pulled my energy back from him and honored his boundaries that I had unintentionally infiltrated. Within minutes his anxiety was completely gone.

I say all this to remind you that when you are filled with love and light and are processing intense cosmic energy, it may affect those around you.
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Heart-Centered Meditation

Today’s post is the fifth in a series of helpful articles for highly-sensitive people. The full presentation was given February 14, 2012 by Yvonne Perry in the Fizzle to Sizzle Relationship Telesummit hosted by Live-Spirit.com. You may listen to the entire presentation by clicking the arrow in the player below.

The goal of the heart centered meditation that I co-created with Dr. Caron Goode is to reunite your spiritual heart with the Sacred Heart and increase your awareness of the love and wisdom of higher realms. I’m amazed at the peace and calm I feel whenever
I do this exercise.

I affirm that I am centered, aligned and heart wise, and I intend through this focused meditation to open my heart, will, and clear knowing.

Breathing in and breathing out, I am aligning my heart, will, and clear knowing with the alpha and with the omega. I am aligned.

Placing my right hand on my heart and gently inhaling…exhaling… inhaling…exhaling… I focus on my heart center. I go inward to heart… I am in heart, and I rest in my awareness there.

Breathing in slowly… and illuminating my heart, filling up my heart with crystalline white light. With each breath I take, the white light is brighter and whiter, growing and filling my heart.

Centered in my heart and aligned, each time I inhale, I send rays of my white light swirling through my body, around my body, and through the soles of my feet to the earth for a solid, grounded connection.

My heart glows with warmth and wisdom. My heart light beams its brilliance outward, forward, preparing my path. The rays of heart light open doors of opportunity, clear my way, and enhance my clear knowing.

I am centered, aligned and heart wise. I am centered in my heart, aligned in my will and clear in my awareness.

I trust the heart’s wisdom, listen to the heart’s passions, and feel the calm, serene space within.

I Am.

The MP3 for the above meditation is available for download. It’s only 99 cents, so why not go to http://weare1inspirit.com/spiritual-audios.htm#Heart and add it to your music library or ipod now?

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How to Stay Open-Hearted in a Harsh Society

Today’s post is the fourth in a series of helpful articles for highly-sensitive people. The full presentation was given February 14, 2012 by Yvonne Perry in the Fizzle to Sizzle Relationship Telesummit hosted by Live-Spirit.com. You may listen to the entire presentation by clicking the arrow in the player below.

The heart is the center of health and well-being. When the heart is healed, the body is healthy. As the heart experience changes, so do life’s experiences. Dreams, thoughts, visions, and limitless possibilities birthed from the Sacred Heart are what affect changes that truly serve our wholeness and support the shift we are making as a species.

Not only does the energy of love and joy belong in our heart, so do our thoughts. When thoughts are run only through the mind, we have multiple problems. When our thoughts are run through the heart, we will feel creative, loved, inspired, and peaceful. We have clear direction and make decisions from a place of clear knowing and clear seeing. In the Sacred Heart we have all the resources we need to make our lives enjoyable and easy. It is when we believe and live as if we are separated from this Sacred Heart that we begin to create by default and bring unpleasant things into our lives. The logical mind would have us believe that we don’t have what we need or that there is lack. When we think from a place of heart centered clear seeing and clear knowing, our heart is filled with a deep sense of confidence and trust.

Love is the greatest power there is. I don’t know of anyone who would not welcome the presence of unconditional love into their human experience. Yet, many people avoid the very activities that would bring more love into their hearts. It is natural to commune with whatever we love or hold valuable. If you love watching movies, you may own a huge library of DVDs; if you love walking in nature, you may take hiking trips; if you love cooking, you may often be in the kitchen trying new recipes. In other words, you will arrange your schedule to spend time engaging in an activity that you feel drawn to—even if it is a negative activity such as worrying or feeling fearful. We create experiences that reinforce or fuel a particular emotion. If we honor our connection to the Sacred Heart, we will regularly engage in the experience of going within to be fed by its infinite resources. When you feel a longing in your spiritual heart what you really want is to experience more love. It is not material things or even people that bring us joy and love, fulfillment and satisfaction.

Plugging in to the Sacred Heart reunites the fragmented parts of us into wholeness. Creating from this place of love and communion with the Sacred Heart, we see ourselves connected to all of creation and know that we can confidently create whatever we wish to manifest.

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What Does It Mean to Be an Empath?

When we talk about empathy we’re saying that people have the ability to feel on behalf of another person. “I feel sorry for you.” or “I’m so sorry to hear that.”

When a highly sensitive person (empath) receives bad news they may take empathy to a whole new degree. They really do feel for you. In fact, they may feel the same emotional impact that you feel when you have a loss. They take it on as if it was their own grief. Or they may feel it in their body; if they are around someone who is sick, they may try to absorb that energy of sickness to transmute it.

Now the way empaths get into some trouble is by not being aware that they are an empath. They may not know what is happening to them; they just think they are very emotional or overly sensitive; they may get sick a lot. They don’t really understand that there is a spiritual reason and that they have been gifted with an ability that some people don’t have in order to help this earth become a better place. 

Empaths many times take the suffering of others into their body to transmute it rather than working with higher energies that are available to help transmute detrimental energy. Anyone can work with ascending masters, angels, or archangels. We have a host of heavenly helpers in the spirit world who can assist us. These high-frequency beings need an anchor here on the earth and that’s where empaths and spiritually sensitive people come into play. We have signed up on a soul level before incarnating to be able to work with these divine helpers, but many times we get here in human form, and forgot why we are here. We get busy in mundane affairs of life and don’t spend time staying connected with our Source of strength; therefore, empaths suffer a lot.

The reason I wrote my book, Whose Stuff Is This? ~ Finding Freedom from the Detrimental Thoughts and Feelings of Those around You, is to help people find the freedom that comes from understanding the gift of empathy and knowing how to use it without paying a personal price. I published that book last year, 2011. Here we are a year later and I’m writing another book. It’s going to be like a sequel to the first book because now that we are in 2012, we are fully in what’s called the ascension or an awakening to oneness. It’s a shift into purer consciousness or purer thought and it’s affecting everything and everyone on the planet.

Empaths seem to feel the impact more keenly than others. They have more symptoms of the shift as we’re moving toward our authentic selves and things that no longer serve us are going away. My next book, Shifting into Purer Consciousness, will teach the right use of energy and give helpful tips to integrate higher cosmic frequencies that are affecting the earth during this 2012 (and beyond) shift.

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Keeping the Heart Open to Sacred Love

Today’s post is the third in a series of articles for highly-sensitive people. The full presentation was given February 14, 2012 by Yvonne Perry in the Fizzle to Sizzle Relationship Telesummit hosted by Live-Spirit.com. You may listen to the entire presentation by clicking the arrow in the player below.

Your spiritual heart is meant to be open to Spirit. When the spiritual heart is infused with divine love it holds the greatest power there is. When we are connected to our Sacred Heart, we are in a state of truth—we live authentically, and we realize there is nothing to guard against. Our heart can be open to others—not blindly open, but wisely knowing what is safe to let in and what should be avoided. Our heart is open yet we are not worried about being hurt because we understand and listen to our intuition to know what we can trust to let in our heart. By the same intuition we know what doesn’t resonate with our sacred space and what we need to filter out. When we have absolute connection to Spirit we have clear guidance to discern what course to take in any moment.

The heart communicates with us through our feelings and emotions. When the heart is closed to infinite love, it feels abandoned or rejected. When we have these feelings, our heart is telling us that it does not feel connected to its source of nourishment. When the heart has been completely walled off, one may experience all sorts of problems in relationships and the physical body—especially with the physical heart. When we feel this disconnection, remember your heart is sending you a message. It is asking to be infused with love.

We need to love ourselves before we can love anyone else. This self-love comes from the Sacred Heart. When we depend upon a relationship to feel loved, adored, or respected we allow another person to be a receptor of the love we feel in ourselves. If that person is suddenly gone from our lives, we feel lonely or betrayed. This is when we really need to give ourselves unconditional love, emotional support, self-respect, adoration. When that significant person is gone, we must pick up the role they were playing and become our own lover. We put meaning back into our lives by reconnecting with the Sacred Heart and doing or being for ourselves what that partner has been for us. If you are feeling loss, let it serve as a reminder to look within your personal heart and find sacred love.

Connection with the Sacred Heart is the one relationship we can count on to always be there. It dwells within us and it is ours forever. When we feel we are losing someone or something dear to us is not the time to create more separation from Sacred Love, but many times that is exactly what we do. Even though it feels like love is leaving us, it is the other person’s presence, which we have equated to love, that has left us. No one else is in control of your personal experience of sacred love. Being in a close relationship with another person gives us the opportunity to share love that ultimately comes from the dimension of sacred love through the Sacred Heart. We can open to that dimension by expressing love to another person, and we can also experience sacred love without a partner.

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How to Open to Sacred Love

Today’s post is the second in a series of helpful articles for highly-sensitive people. The full presentation was given by Yvonne Perry in “From Fizzle to Sizzle Relationship Telesummit” hosted by Live-Spirit.com. You may listen to the entire presentation by clicking the arrow in the player below.

Next, we want to talk about how to activate your heart and connect to the secret chamber of the Sacred Heart where unconditional love abounds. In that limitless place of bliss, you will find everything you have always wanted and needed—everything you’ve been trying to extract from a human relationship. Operating from your personal place of power, you will learn how to allow love to radiate from you so strongly that you no longer absorb detrimental energy from others.

When we look to another person to fulfill us, love us, and meet our needs, we are looking to the wrong source. We are the only ones who can meet and nurture our emotional needs and this is done by connecting to the sacred and secret chamber of the Sacred Heart and unconditional love that abounds there. I will lead us in a meditation to show how to do this. But first, I want to explain the three hearts—the trinity of human spirituality—that each person has:

1. The physical heart supports the physical body. It’s the organ that pumps and circulates blood throughout the body. The physical heart chakra is a reception site for the energy coming from the spiritual heart to us through the etheric heart.

2. The spiritual heart connects us to a dimension of pure, spiritual awareness or unconditional love, which is free of mental and emotional influences.

3. Connecting the physical heart to the spiritual heart is the Sacred Heart (God, All That Is) that supports the electromagnetic energy field of the brain/body. It is where true prayer (or communion with our creator) resides. This is home! The spiritual heart is the center of creativity. It is through this heart that we heal the aspect of ourselves that has known separation. Part of reconnecting with the Sacred Heart is to become aware of your authentic free-spirited self that knows and easily experiences love, peace, and joy. Your soul has not forgotten its union with the Sacred Heart; our human perspective in this 3-D world has caused us to see ourselves as separate from it.

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How to Tell the Difference Between Fear and Intuition

Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s new book “Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life” (Three Rivers Press, 2011)

In "Emotional Freedom" my approach to transforming fear has two stages. First, take stock of what makes you afraid and distinguish irrational fears from legitimate intuitions. Second, take appropriate steps to heed protective fears and transform the others with courage. At times you may foresee real danger, but more frequently unproductive fears clobber you. Therefore as a general rule, train yourself to question fears tied to low self-esteem; we’re all worthy of what’s extraordinary. For example, it’s right to question the fear that you’re too emotionally damaged to love; even the severely wounded can have their hearts opened again. True intuitions will never put you down or support destructive attitudes or behavior. Here are some guidelines for distinguishing legitimate fears from irrational ones:

How To Tell Fear From Intuition

Signs of a Reliable Intuition

• Conveys information neutrally, unemotionally  
• Feels right in your gut
• Has a compassionate, affirming tone
• Gives crisp, clear impressions that are “seen” first, then felt
• Conveys a detached sensation, like you’re in a theater watching a movie

Signs of an Irrational Fear

• Highly emotionally charged
• Has cruel, demeaning, or delusional content
• Conveys no gut-centered confirmation or on-target feeling
• Reflects past psychological wounds
• Diminishes centeredness and perspective

For comparison’s sake, I’ll share radically different examples of how I use the above criteria. One morning I got two calls from frightened patients who both claimed to be hearing voices. Truly a typical day in my office! The first came from Bill, a schizophrenic who’d been skimping on his meds. Bill’s inner “voice” kept haranguing him, insisting he was a bad person, that his food was poisoned, that his son was being raped again by the grandmotherly babysitter. Believing these “delusions” (false beliefs unsubstantiated by fact), he was absolutely unhinged. So Bill kept calling the cops, who sent a squad car out twice, but found no threat. Tolerant but tiring of this, the officers warned that if he contacted them again, they’d haul him off to a psychiatric hospital. My other patient, Jean, had been coping with despair about her brother suffering from end-stage AIDS. Jean’s inner “voice” said to immediately fly to New York to join him, though he’d recently been stable. True of authentic intuitions, it came through clear-as-a-bell, oddly matter-of-fact and followed the typical progression of being “seen first,” then felt.

Both patients asked me, “What should I do?’ I urged Bill to take his meds and offered reassurance about his safety, a tack that had lessened his fear many times in our decade of working together. Jean, however, I supported in buying a plane ticket because her intuition felt so imminent, so right. Fortunately, she did, despite the expense and inconvenience to her job. That week her brother took a sudden turn for the worse, slipped into a coma and died within hours. Heart-breaking as witnessing his death was for Jean, she was able to be at her brother’s side in those precious last moments.

Try to separate unhealthy fears from intuition. Though Bill’s case was extreme, you may also have some fears that belittle you or cause you to misinterpret danger. Perhaps in a fit of anger your ex-wife called you “useless” and you believed it. This is not intuition. Nor is being frightened of having cancer whenever a brown spot appears on your skin. Also, be skeptical of long-standing fears, say of heights; these are typically not premonitions.

If you’re en emotional empath, it can be especially tricky to ascertain which fears are authentic, helpful intuitions. Because you tend to absorb other people’s emotions, you may pick up their fear and think it’s your own. To avoid this, always ask yourself, “Is the fear mine or someone else’s?” One dependable way to find out is to distance yourself from the source. Move at least twenty feet away. If you experience relief, it’s likely you’re perceiving another’s fear. Although it’s fine to absorb courage and all positive emotions from others because they’ll strengthen you, you don’t want to absorb negativity. Move away, and keep releasing extraneous fear by exhaling it until the feeling passes.

While some apprehensions may be empathically linked to another’s feelings or, like Jean’s, are distinct intuitive warnings, the more garden variety ones reflect ingrained negative psychological patterns. To resolve these, you must know where they come from and do what’s necessary to loosen their hold.



Judith Orloff MD, an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA and intuition expert, is author of the New York Times Bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life (Three Rivers Press, 2011) Her other bestsellers are Positive Energy, Intuitive Healing, and Second Sight. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. She passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness. www.drjudithorloff.com

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We Are Realizing Our Divine Nature

I think a lot of people are afraid of admitting that they have the divine within them. It sounds so pious, but the truth is to think of ourselves as separate from or less than God is the epitome of arrogance—like we can somehow exist without the divine. It is in the essence of this creative power that we live and move and have our being.

Jesus’ claiming to be God was the thing that did him in. One thing I think people mistakenly derive from the teachings in the Bible about Jesus is that he was somehow seeing and promoting himself as superior to us when actually he was saying, “What I do, you can do also. In fact, you can even do greater works than I have done.” The way to do that is to follow the path he has set before us, which was to be one with God. As we see ourselves as individuations of the divine we begin to act more responsibly. Just imagine what the world would be like if everyone was told from the very beginning of their lives that they are one with god. That they are one with goddess. I think our crime level would drastically decline.

Carl Bozeman wrote a wonderful book titled On Being God. His book gives a better perspective on that particular topic than any book that I have read. It gives people permission to breathe easy when they say, “I am god or I am goddess” and truly understand what that means. We humans live far below our divine potential; it’s easy to see why we don’t view ourselves as God. Once we understand our creative power and how to correctly use energy, we will recognize our greatness—not in a proud manner, but in a way that makes us realize that we are responsible for our every thought, emotion, word, and deed. We will then know why Jesus spent so much time in prayer and spiritual purification practices such as fasting. While working under the veil of illusion in this 3-D world, he knew he had to stay connected to his Source of wisdom and strength—he had to keep open the lines of communication with Home. So do we!

So I ask you: What spiritual practices are you using to help you stay grounded in divine love? How are you staying connected to your higher source of wisdom? What do you need to do today to get in sync as God-Goddess?

We are pilgrims and strangers here on Earth; we are just passing through. This means that we came from somewhere other than this planet and will go elsewhere when we are done here. It pays to stay in touch with the folks back home. So, ET, phone home—regularly!

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How to Cope with Personal Space Intruders

Adapted from Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transfrom Your Life by Judith Orloff MD (Three Rivers Press, 2011)

If you want to see people flip their lids fast, try invading their personal space. What is personal space? In “Emotional Freedom” I emphasize its main aspects. First, it’s the invisible border that surrounds us and sets our comfort level when we interact. Depending on our preferences, it can range from inches to feet and varies with situations, upbringing, and culture. (Elephants have a no-go line of a few feet around them; cross it and you’ll hear a noisy trunkful or be charged.) Studies indicate that most Americans need an arms-length bubble around them. Second, personal space refers to the border that guards your physical and psychic privacy. You can violate it by barging in on your spouse when he or she needs to be alone. Other types of violations can include sound, odors, sneezing on someone if you have a cold, or cyber intrusions such as spam. You can also intrude into someone’s property or turf, a breach that can ignite gang violence or wars between nations.

To better understand your own needs about personal space and respect others’ be aware of the following triggers.

Ten Common Personal Space Intrusions

1.  Hearing the blather of someone’s cell phone conversation while waiting in line
2.  Telemarketers
3.  Loud music, loud people, loud machinery, or loud cars
4.  A dog lifting its leg preparing to pee on your roses
5.  Internet cons, schemes and spam
6.  Gym hogs who won’t let others work out on the equipment
7.  Air pollution, toxic fumes (for example, car exhaust), strong perfume
8.  Tailgaters or slow drivers 
9.  A person talking too close in your face or backslapping
10. Graffiti and vandalism

Why can personal space intrusions make our blood boil? Aside from being obnoxious, rude, dangerous, or unhealthy, they violate a primitive instinct that we’re not safe or respected. When we experience such violations, our brains actually react as if we were still back in 50,000 BC. Research shows that personal space disputes such as neighbor feuds about overgrown foliage are evolutionarily prompted responses aimed at guarding resources and ensuring survival.

Tips from “Emotional Freedom” to Honor Your Personal Space Needs

When someone intrudes on your personal space, don’t act impulsively. Take a breath. Stay calm. Decide how you want to respond. Sometimes you’ll opt to address the issue directly. If so, it’s most effective to express your needs with an even, non-accusatory or angry tone.

Option 1. Set limits

Talk to your family and friends
We often get short-tempered when we’re overwhelmed. Even a brief escape will relieve pressure and lets you emotionally regroup. Plan regular mini-breaks at home. Tell your kids you need five minutes in the bathroom with the door shut and that they may not intrude. Tell your mate you want to read in a separate room when the television is on. Or set limits with a friend by saying you’d like to refrain from late-night phone calls. Conveying your needs with kindness can lead to more loving relationships.

Speak up with others.
When you have an ongoing interaction with someone, it’s useful to set kind, firm limits--then show appreciation when the offender adheres to them. For instance, in a sweet voice, I asked a man at my gym who’s constantly on his cell phone, though they are banned, to please not use it so others could relax. Initially he snapped, “Well, I wouldn’t want to disturb you!’ but I just smiled back at him and sincerely said, “That is so kind of you, sir. I appreciate it.” Here, sweetness worked. At least around me, he never used the phone again. In some circumstances, though, resolving the conflict might involve more discussion and mutual compromise.

Avoid toxic situations.
Avoid or minimize contact with those who don’t respect your needs. For instance, don’t drive in a car with a rage-aholic. (Anger’s poisonous energy is intensified in cramped spaces). Or don’t travel with someone who’s an obsessively chronic talker if you want to be quiet and unwind.

Option 2. Practice the Zen approach.

Let it be.
Sometimes it’s more aggravation than it’s worth to confront intruders who you’ll never see again. The motor-mouth woman in the airport ticket line. The guy who steals your parking space. One mellow friend told me, “No one cuts me off in traffic anymore because I let everyone in!’ When faced with a “Let it be” scenario, your sense of equanimity is the greatest victory.

View the personal space intruder’s insensitivity with compassion.
Remember:
- They’re usually not doing it to you personally
- Maybe they’re just having a bad day
- They lack the good sense or manners not to intrude
- They’re so egotistical or inconsiderate they’re only concerned for themselves,
   a crippling deficit of heart
- If they’re being malicious, it’s a great weakness and darkness within them.

When someone intrudes on your personal space, stick to the high road. Try to remedy the problem using the above tips. It’s tempting to get nasty, which may provide a fleeting release, but it has no real gains. I’m so adamantly against “pay-back” because it’s completely devoid of compassion for the offender or any desire to improve how we humans relate.


Judith Orloff MD, an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA and intuition expert, is author of the New York Times Bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life (Three Rivers Press, 2011) Her other bestsellers are Positive Energy, Intuitive Healing, and Second Sight. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and energy medicine. She passionately believes that the future of medicine involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and total wellness. www.drjudithorloff.com

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Please check out “Dr. Orloff’s Living Room Series” to find out more about the special method Dr. Orloff recommends to remember your dreams and other topics to build the power within. Stop by www.youtube.com/judithorloffmd anytime.

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