April 2, 2012

When Both Partners in a Relationship Are Empaths

Today’s post is the eighth in a series of helpful articles for highly-sensitive people. The full presentation was given February 14, 2012 by Yvonne Perry in the Fizzle to Sizzle Relationship Telesummit hosted by Live-Spirit.com. You may listen to the entire presentation by clicking the arrow in the player below.

This is an especially vulnerable relationship because whatever one is feeling and picking up from public venues or other people is then shared with the partner and both of them feel bad.
Empaths tend to be somewhat codependent to begin with, so it’s natural to blame ourselves when someone else is upset; or we may try to fix the situation or calm the other person. We fear rocking the boat or making things worse, so many times we absorb our partner’s emotional energy into the cells of our body or the electromagnetic field surrounding our body. These energetic burdens can make an empath emotionally and physically sick. When both partners are empaths, they share this misery to a whole new degree of suffering!

But there are benefits to two empaths being in a relationship. Things can work out well if both empaths recognize what is going on with one another and each is actively pursuing spiritual purification practices to clear the energy from their body and auric fields. It’s when neither partner is diligent about keeping their auric field clear that real trouble manifests. Once each partner understands their gift and begins practicing the right use of energy as outlined in the exercises today and the teachings of this telesummit, you will understand one another better than anyone else on the planet. You both have experienced what it’s like to be dragged down by energetic burdens and now with these new tools, you will be able to remind one another to stay focused on transmuting detrimental energy using purer forms of energy rather than allowing the body, mind, and emotions as a punching bag!

There is no need to wall off emotionally from your partner. You will be able to open your heart to divine love without the fear of getting hurt again. Whenever your protection mechanism urges you to avoid getting too close to your partner, you can remind yourself to be filled with love and light from the sacred heart space. Being filled, you can then allow that love to flow through you without siphoning from your partner to get your needs met. You can enjoy being sexually intimate with him or her because being in close proximity merges your auric fields, which you are both keeping clear. This compounds and intensifies the loving, heightened emotional energy of both partners. If one is carrying negativity, the positive charge of the other partner can lift this by sending it to the flame of St. Germaine.

If you are an empath is it imperative that you manage your own energy regardless of what your partner does. You can remind your partner to practice what you’ve learned today, but you can only carry so much for your partner without it wearing you down. Carrying the detrimental energy that you pick up from your partner is a sure way to lose your own identity, miss your higher purpose, and create more personal suffering and relationship misery than is necessary. Don’t be afraid of setting boundaries with your partner who is not pulling his or her weight in this double-empath relationship. I realize that saying “no” to someone is difficult. We fear that if the person responds with an unpleasant emotion that we will take into our personal auric field. You don’t have to do that.

There are no victims in a relationship. Both partners have agreed at some level to participate in the drama they create. It is up to you to see yourself as an empowered individual with a divine mission to accomplish and to do whatever is necessary to get yourself to a safe and healthy place in life. I’m living proof that you don’t have to allow the gift of empathy to drain you or control your destiny.

In closing, remember to focus on the love within yourself, not on your problems. Anyone can do this by opening to sacred love that resides within their own heart. To know that your soul is infused with love and feel the joy of living in union with the I AM presence brings true healing and a revelation of the ascended version of your soul. In that rendition, the heaviness, fatigue, discomfort, or illness you may be experiencing now does not exist. The energy for helping making this shift is here now.


  1. Nice topic!
    I really love it.

  2. Thanks! I love and hate the relationships with empaths, but this article gives some hope for solving the issues. I cleared my aura today after picking up a lot of negative energy from my lover. Things feel better.