Tips For Communicating With Your Emotions

By Maria K. Garcia

The secret to avoiding bottling up of emotions is, knowing how to effectively communicate with them. It does not matter whether the emotions are positive or negative. However, it can be slightly challenging to establish efficient communication when one is overcome by emotions. To make certain that one's emotion-associated communication is efficient, it is important to involve a tad bit of preparation.

This article discusses into detail tips on now to effectively communicate with your feelings when overwhelmed by emotions.

Give yourself time to calm down. In a situation where you find yourself overpowered by sadness or happiness, chances are that you will be more than eager to talk to someone in regards to your feelings. Nonetheless, this is not a wise move. In order to communicate effectively with your feelings, you need to give yourself time to calm down. This is because your amplified feelings can cause you to say or do something which you may regret at a later date.

Plan your opinions. Prior to talking to someone about your feelings, it is important that you be able to comprehend yourself. Journaling your thoughts will assist you in trying to understanding these emotions. If you have a sheet of paper, jot down these feelings immediately. Since they are still fresh in your mind, it is best not to wait. Thereafter, try to explain to yourself why these emotions are overwhelming your thoughts. If these feelings are negative, try as much as possible to determine the best way to stop them.

Come up with "I" declarations. Beneath your notes, jot down numerous statements which start with "I". A lot of emphasis ought to be placed as to why you are experiencing these emotions and the triggers of these emotions. For instance, in case you are mad with someone who is close to you, begin the statement as "I feel as if I was not consulted."

Choose an appropriate timing. Prior to communication your feelings, make certain that the timing for communication these emotions is an appropriate one. Choose a secluded location and a huge chunk of time to make certain that you the opportunity to investigate your emotions rather than hurrying over your thought process.

Talk to someone about your feelings. Once you have gone through your thought process, the next step is to let them out. While expressing your feelings, try as much as possible to remain levelheaded. Use the "I" statements you wrote earlier to communicate these feelings.

Learning how to express one's emotions can greatly assist in preventing hurtful words or actions that commonly uttered or done when one is overpowered by feelings.

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How to Cope With Emotions and Reduce Anxiety

By Margaret Sweet

Emotions are feelings that cause reactions. When a person feels sad, regret, guilt, shame, angry, hurt, resentful, or rejected they tend to allow these feelings to cause them to slip into depression. Such intense emotions are the leading cause of anxiety, panic attacks, and other disorders. People find it hard to cope with emotional reactions because we have lived in a world of misconceptions and for century's society and others have told people "Big boys don't cry." Alternatively, they say "Let it go" when someone is emotionally hurt, thus encouraging people to repress true hurt feelings. Repressing feelings literally means to block, limit, or internalize.

When a person represses true feelings for long periods it results to the creation of a mental disorder in most instances. People who tend to hold in anger and resentment will express anger outwardly or rely on drugs or alcohol in some instances to cope with the buried feelings. To overcome emotional conflicts we all have to learn how to express our true feelings appropriately and learn to recognize how to notice the difference between assumptions and true feelings.

How to cope with intense emotions

When you first notice that, you feel upset, take a step back and examine your thoughts. Emotions are feelings that cause a reaction when thoughts encourage feelings. For example, if you were assuming that someone is judging you, you would feel anxious as a result. The reason this reaction occurs is that the emotion or feeling is untrue. These shaky assumptions lead people to think they can read other people's minds when they cannot, so to assume people who do not even know is judging you, is making a false statement against others. Challenging the thought will help you to put the thought into a new perspective.

When we are untrue to ourselves emotional, conflicts result. I help people recognize assumptions that cause them to feel upset. To change how you think is the first step you must take to change how you react. The next step is challenging the fears.

Fear

People who live in fear struggle with handling emotional reactions well. Irrational fear resulting from assuming habits, worry and anxiety are often caused from a notion that a person is in real danger even when there is no danger present. They live in the "fight or flight" way of thinking that causes distress and panic to escalate. The key to reducing anxiety and panic is to overcome the notion you are in real danger when danger isn't present.

Emotions are feelings and causes emotional sensations when a person feels sad, happy, excited, angry, joyful, etc. by learning to accept that every one of us has real feelings, it will be easier to cope with emotions. Learn how to cope with emotions to reduce mental disorder and other problems by considering effective cognitive behavioral therapy, life skills course, mastery skills programs, and subliminal therapy.

Copyrights: 2013, Maggie Sweet Cognitive-behavioral therapy http://www.cbttherapy.org

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The Empath Blues: 4 Ways to Relieve Emotional Fatigue

By Elise Lebeau

According to wikipedia, "decisional fatigue refers to the deteriorating quality of decisions made by an individual, after a long session of decision making". This concept has been studied extensively in psychology where people who have to make a lot of decisions as part of their daily job, like judges for example, become worn out over time and tend to make poorer decision later in the day. The mind becomes exhausted and has a hard time evaluating trade offs, a critical skill in decision making.

In a similar vein, empaths can become overly activated by the constant emotional information that they have to process. This is especially true for Impaired empaths who have a hard time regulating the influx of emotions they pick up from other people. Overtime, their ability to appropriately respond to emotions can become erratic, leaving them feeling powerless and depressed.

Under a spell of the empath blues, you might start to feel sad without knowing why. You are also more likely to feel depressed later in the day, waking up fine in the morning but experiencing a decline in your positive emotions as the day goes by. The empath blues is typically temporary but can become chronic if left unattended. Please note that anyone who feels depressed over a long period of time might be suffering from clinical depression and should immediate seek medical help as well as therapeutic counseling.

So what can you do when you find yourself in the throes of the empath blues? There is a very common misconception that the remedy for emotional fatigue is to try to be "happier". Meaning that you should try to think positively, even though you feel utterly crappy. Have you ever been with someone who was trying to cheer you up while you felt sad? Despite their best efforts, you kinda want them to shut up and go away.

This reaction makes perfect sense when you consider that alleviating emotional fatigue requires emotional quiet, which is the absence of strong emotions. Feeling happy is a strong emotion and strong emotions, whether positive or negative, are exactly what caused emotional fatigue in the first place! Not only that but trying to cheer up on the spot takes a huge amount of effort when you are feeling sad. You're trying to jump from one end of the emotional spectrum (sadness) into the opposite end (happiness) while being exhausted, so you're more likely to fall flat on your face mid jump.

Most empaths are not familiar with the state of emotional quiet required to address emotional fatigue. They are so used to feel tugged in all kinds of emotional direction that feeling nothing is often equated with feeling dead or empty. They wonder if something's wrong. And yet, this is no different than sleep for the body! We need down time where we let out body, mind and emotions rest.

Fortunately, empath are often very intuitive beings. They feel drawn to what is good for them. That's why if you're an empath you'll probably recognize some of your own urges in the 4 most effective ways to relieve emotional fatigue.

Being alone: Empaths need time by themselves where they are less likely to be tuning into the emotions of others around them. It doesn't mean you're anti-social or that you don't like people! It just means you need to refuel before going back out into the world. Make sure you have plenty of alone time when you're doing something that is not emotional, such as knitting, gardening, cooking, etc. I like to play video games which requires strategy but has no emotional triggers for me. Be creative!

Being in nature: Many empaths report feeling most at peace in nature, among trees and in large bodies of water like the ocean or a lake. With good reasons! Trees and water provide a natural "white noise" when it comes to emotional vibration. It's like wearing a noise canceling headset to drown out the emotions of people. I walk 5 miles a week in the forest around my house which rejuvenates and energizes me for the day.

Being physical active: Physical activity can provide a great buffer against emotional fatigue by taking your focus away from emotions and into your own physical body. For our purposes, the physical activity needs to be challenging enough that it requires your full attention. Rock climbing and yoga are my favorite activities to get emotionally quiet.

Meditation: Meditation provides a powerful way to guide your focus away from other people. This can be very challenging for empaths who tend to always tune into others. It can feel unnatural or difficult at first. But being able to create a quiet space within, whether by focusing on your breath or by following a guided audio meditation, can give you the space you need to rest both your mind and your delicate emotional system.

Elise Lebeau, Ph.D. is a Professional Intuitive. She provides tools and techniques for intuitive and emotionally sensitive people. Her main interest is helping Empaths achieve their full potential. You can find out more on her web site: http://www.EliseLebeau.com Heal - Learn - Grow!

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When Do Empaths Most Often Pick Up Energy?

Empaths can pick up other peoples’ emotions when least expected. For example, if someone at work had an argument on the way to work, and then walks over to you and starts a conversation, you might feel the energy of his residual anger. This can be very confusing if you are not aware of his previous phone call. You may actually feel angry and think it is your stuff.

If you suddenly feel angry for no reason or start complaining about something that you care virtually nothing about, you have probably picked up on the emotions of someone around you. This type of “mirroring,” which seems to be more prevalent when we are exhausted or stressed out, can cause an empathic person to behave in an irrational manner. Some have even been misdiagnosed as having bipolar disorder.

In my book, Whose Stuff Is This? ~ Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You, I gave excerpts from interviews I did with empaths. You will find a wide variety of situations in which folks have found themselves as a result of this intuitive gift. Some of these people have just realized they are empaths; others are veteran empaths who are using this intuitive gift as part of their healing practice.

Empathic abilities can be both a gift and a curse. One person I interviewed said that it has both saved his life and broken his heart. “I thought I was an agoraphobic for the longest because when I was around a lot of people I felt overwhelmed,” said Jonathan. “I thought it was anxiety, but then I began to be able to tell when someone was lying to me. It can hurt to know someone you love is lying to you.”

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Honoring the Boundaries of Others

By being overly sympathetic toward others we enable them to continue their harmful behavior. This not only disempowers them, it adversely affects you. I hate to be so blunt, but we empaths really need to mind our own business! We have enough stuff of our own to deal with; we don’t need someone else’s drama. We are all here to enjoy our earth experience, explore possibilities, and develop our own soul. When we carry burdens for someone else, we rob them of the experience to learn specific lessons their soul has arranged.

If someone close has asked for some space or time apart from you, honor their request. We don’t have to be entertained or always together in order to have a healthy relationship. If your partner needs space, you don’t have to feel as though they don’t like you or don’t want to be with you. They may simply need a break from your energy—especially if you are carrying a negative charge and are not attempting to clear it. Give your loved one a chance to recover and recharge their batteries. Why not spend the time engaging in your own spiritual work? It can only make your relationship better.

You are stronger than you think you are. You are not a victim; you have the power to choose. Therefore, there is no need to blame others or circumstances for your discomfort. As you begin the process of working on your own stuff, you will see your “self” in a new light. You will see your life shift in miraculous ways and you will attract many new opportunities. And you won’t be burdened with other people’s stuff.

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Three Choices for Responding When You Are Upset

I realize what a challenge it can be to stay positive in the emotionally-charged world in which we live. It will help if you prepare in advance when you must go into public settings or social gatherings. Surround yourself with love and light, ground your energy, and center yourself before you leave home. When you find yourself in stressful situations, take a break and find a quiet place where you can close your eyes, breathe consciously, let go of the external world, and tap into your true essence. Ask your divine guidance to transmute any detrimental energy into beneficial energy that can bless and help everyone find peace and joy within.

Whenever you feel heavy emotions, take action quickly! Acknowledge and release them before they take over and drag you down. That way, you can be non-resistant and present in every moment as you bring your attention and awareness to each thought, feeling, and activity as it is occurring. When something upsetting is occurring for you, there are three choices you can make:

1) Resist, deny, avoid, or ignore it (not recommended!)
2) Communicate, ask for what you need, and be willing to alter what you can about the situation. If another person involved will not cooperate with your peace-making efforts, cut ties with the offender or remove yourself from the unhealthy environment. Change jobs, relocate, or do whatever you need to bring about a better living/working condition or peace of mind. You do not have to complain, suffer, or play the role of a victim.
3) Accept the situation once you have done all you can to remedy it. This does not mean you are giving up or surrendering to something you abhor. It means you have released all the negative charge surrounding the situation and come to a place of peace that will allow you to remain where you are without suffering, stuffing, or seething. This option is best employed when you are dealing with an uncontrollable situation such as the death of a loved one or the termination of any close relationship.

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