June 27, 2013

Trauma Could Have Been Avoided if Parents Had Listened to Teenager

Empathy and intuition give us the ability to better understand how we are connected to other living things. It is a form of communication with others, nature, animals, and even higher or spirit forms of life. I think we are all born with empathic ability, but most of us shut the sensing ability down at some point, like I did, because it causes such discomfort and overload. By shutting down, we live in our heads and are pretty much out of touch with our body and our own emotions.

Being an “unaware” empath is very draining for an adult. Just imagine what it feels like to be an intuitive kid and not have the language to explain it to your parents. A child who sees or hears in the spirit realm may act out because he or she feels overwhelmed and does not know how to express what he or she is experiencing. The problem is compounded when adults will not listen, try to hush the child, or refuse to believe the child’s report of psychic incidents.

When Iris was thirteen, her dad planned a fishing trip with the family. As much as she loved fishing, that sunny July morning was quite upsetting for her. She had not slept well the previous night and when she awoke she felt uncomfortable, nauseated, and like there was a magnetic force discouraging her from going on the trip. As the rest of the family happily approached the van, Iris begged her dad to please reschedule the trip. She told him that she felt sick and scared and that they shouldn't go. Confused by her behavior, he commanded her to get in the van.

When they arrived at the lake, the clan spread out along the banks with no more than twelve feet between them—that was the family fishing rule. Inwardly, Iris was still freaking out and disturbed but she kept quiet as she took her fishing pole and sat on a rock.

Two minutes later, her little sister came to sit next to her and asked, “What’s wrong?

Why didn't you want to come on the trip?”

Suddenly, Iris heard a distant, shattered voice yelling, “Help me!”

“Shhhh!” Iris said to her sister. “Listen. Did you hear that?”

Her sister didn't hear zip and looked at Iris like she was crazy.

As she kept hearing the same words, Iris noticed the voice was coming from the other side of the lake. The voice sounded like a flute, not like a human voice. Then she realized it was coming out of the water. Iris ran to her dad and told him that she heard voices from the other side of the lake.

“There is no one at the other side of the lake. It’s closed to the public. Go take a nap. You’re in my fishing spot.”

At this point Iris thought she was going crazy! But she went back to her spot and started drawing. A half hour later, she heard her family members crying and yelling, “We lost him!”

Danny, her 16-year-old cousin, decided to sneak off to catch the larger fish where the boats go. Danny had won awards for being the best swimmer and fisher, yet he drowned that day.

Iris’ dad warned her to never tell these stories to anyone because it might lead them astray from the Christian faith. Now that her dad is gone, she feels free to tell her stories—and there are many.

Iris has precognizant, clairaudient, and clairsentient gifts at work in her life. The precognizant magnetic pull she felt was for the purpose of getting her attention in order to have her dad cancel the trip or take extra precaution in knowing where each child was at all times. Hearing the voice crying for help is a clairaudient gift. The feeling of nausea is a clairsentient ability. Many empathic healers use this gift to ascertain where in the body their patients need a healing flow of energy directed.

These gifts are just as common and useful as gifts of music, art, teaching, or other talents humans possess, but it’s not typical for families to discuss paranormal experiences that do not align with their religious doctrine or are frowned upon by the church. It’s probably not a good idea to go to church on Sunday and admit that you see ghosts. However, had Iris’ dad listened to her that day, Danny might still be in body today.

We do our children a great injustice when we invalidate their intuitive abilities. But, many parents simply don't know what to do with kids who see or hear spirits, predict future events, or know some family secret they haven’t been told. In some cases, the “hushing” parent also has some paranormal gifts in operation that he or she is not comfortable talking about—maybe they were shushed by their parents and are simply passing down the advice they were given.

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  1. I had a very similar experience in my early 20's when my mother was scheduled to have a medical test and I had the most dreadful feeling when she told me about it. The test ended up going horribly wrong. 3 emergency surgeries and a month in the hospital later, her life was changed forever.
    Reading this inspired a post on my own blog, I linked back to yours as well :)

  2. It is in our best interest to pay attention to our intuition. However, there are times when we're just not sure if what we are sensing is our own fear/worry, or if it is indeed a sign that something is about to go awry. And, then if it is a sign, how much should we interfere with another person's free will to experience their own trauma? Do we share the information we get? If so, with whom? These are questions, I'd like people to address. Arika, do you have insight on this?