The Firefly and the Butterfly

I've spoken many times about empaths and relationships because it's our interaction with others that cause so many highly-sensitive people to pick up detrimental energy. So much of this comes from our attempt to control a situation, manipulate an outcome, or make someone a prisoner of our expectations. Whether the relationship is with a parent being fearful of losing a child, or a lover being unfaithful, or a boss being a micro-manger, no relationship flourishes under these conditions.

Below is a poem I have written to show a contrast between a relationship in a fear-based paradigm and a relationship in a love-based paradigm of balance. Which "fly" is you in a troubling relationship right now?

The Firefly and the Butterfly

A firefly swooped near me
I caught her in my hands
and cupped her tightly so she could not flee
I would peer in upon my captive
just to watch her light up
I clinched my hands tighter
Snuffing out the air she needed
And closing the space around her
so she could not see the beauty of others
Her wings could not unfurl
Her spirit could not soar
Bound by my possessive grip
She had no choice or liberty
Her light faded
She became silent and still

A butterfly landed upon my open palm
His wing was slightly torn
I admired his gentle grace and beauty
but I dared not close my hand
for fear that I would crush his tender heart
and harm him in some way
Intently, I cast my eyes and restoring love upon him
and watched breathlessly to see if he would respond
Sometimes I would close my eyes and feel
the tickle of his wings, the pulse of his heart
or the movement of his tiny feet upon my skin
Soaking in the intense color and vibration
of all the life, freedom, and vitality he offers
I cannot hold him prisoner
while he heals and basks in the warmth of my hand
I realize the choice is not mine
Will he stay or fly away?


© Yvonne Perry 2012

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PURCHASE the paperback book, Whose Stuff Is This? Finding Freedom from the Thoughts, Feelings, and Energy of Those Around You at http://tinyurl.com/EmpathAmazon. The e-book version is now available for Kindle, iPhone, iPad, and other digital reading devices. Also check out the audio book now available as an MP3 file.

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